The title of this post is a little cheeky. I’m not trying to brag, and frankly, there have been occasions when I’ve sucked in bed. Overall, though…I’ve been given the thumbs up, and that’s been reiterated by the fact that guys come back for more sex with me, even when it might be easier to get elsewhere.
I’m not super flexible. I don’t have double-jointed legs or freakishly tight lady-parts. I’m average on most accounts. But I’m awesome in bed. Why is that?
1) I have fun. Sex isn’t always movie-quality or perfect. It’s just fun. People take it so seriously, but at the end of the day, if you’re not having fun, what’s the point? Even if your primary goal of sex is to get pregnant, you should still have a good time.
2) I love it. Guys are encouraged when they see that you’re really enjoying yourself. It’s such a turn on when you just let go and love the raw energy of the moment. Girls feel the same way – we love seeing how hot we make you. Make your partner feel like she/he is the best you’ve ever had and the sex really will end up being pretty great.
3) I’m open to trying new things. Sure, everyone has limits, but if you nix everything but missionary, sex is going to get boring. Be open to at least trying new positions and techniques. You can always stop if it is uncomfortable. Try sex in the shower. Break out the toys. Whatever – just don’t do the same old thing every night.
4) I’m not skimpy on the foreplay. Contrary to popular belief, most men love foreplay as much as women. Remember, the fun is in the journey, so whether it’s a fingering or a blow job or something else, don’t try to get your partner to orgasm quickly. Let him/her enjoy the ride.
5) I’m vocal. A few grunts as you’re fucking does not a good time make. Don’t be afraid to talk dirty, and if that makes you uncomfortable, even just some “oh fucks” or “yes, right theres” makes sex so much better.
And…well…to be honest, I’ve practiced. I haven’t had as much sex as some, but if you’re a virgin or inexperienced, give it some time. Time with your specific partner matters too – that’s why I don’t have one-nighters anymore. Sex is always better once you get to know one another and have sex repeatedly.
I’m awesome in bed, and maybe that sounds cocky, but believing that you’re hot is half the battle. I don’t think there’s a single person out there who can’t also be awesome, regardless of weight, cock/breast size, stamina, etc. You don’t have to be perfect to be awesome.
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Hon, you hit the nail on the head, so to speak. As a woman of more years than you, and probably a lot more partners than you, I can attest to the truth of what you said here. Having fun, enjoying yourself, not being so self conscious, enjoying your partner and being adventuresome are all things that make a superb sexual playmate. It isn’t the porn stars or the drop dead beautiful Victoria Secret model that is the star of the sex show….it is the average woman that gives more than the average amount of herself. This was a great post. I wish every woman would read it. Hugs to you.
I think each and every one of your points is very crucial in having a good sex life, and being good at sex. Having fun and wanting to try new things are two of the big ones for me. The best sex I’ve had is the sex where I’ve really gotten into it, enjoyed myself, and experimented with new things. And letting your partner know what you want? What you like? I don’t know how people get by without communicating. Their loss.
I bet you are fabulous in bed.
I wish I could experience it for myself.
I share your thoughts. People too often get stuck in a rut and sex becomes a byproduct, not the focus. By keeping these things you mention in mind, most people would find sex rewarding, I’m sure.
Love reading your blog! Totally agree on the “not skimpy on foreplay” bit.
So so true…and exactly why I think I am awesome in bed too!
Btw, I used to do HNT…that is how I got here.
As someone with low self esteem I have the need to tell you that this is a really inspirational post and also helps to set some goals
Thanks very much for putting it up.