The title of this post was a phrase someone used to find this site on Google. My stats counter keeps track of the search terms people use, and while some of them are downright weird, others do make some sense. I don’t know if that searcher will ever be back, but he/she (probably he), but I’m certainly inspired to write a post on the topic.
I don’t hate sucking cock. If you’ve been here any length of time, you’ve come to realize that about me already. Of course I find some cocks more…user-friendly…than others, but the fact of the matter is, I love it because of the domination aspect. A guy forcing his cock down a girl’s throat just screams domination. To me, that’s hot.
I realize that not every girl is like that, and I wasn’t always like that either. So I’m going to share a few secrets with ya’ll as to why some girls hate sucking cock. Understanding these points can help you figure out how to encourage your favorite female to change her mind.
1. Cocks are rarely fresh. Before you whipped your cock out, where was it? That’s right – in your pants, getting all hot and sweaty as you made out with your leading lady. Every cock has its own distinct smell and taste, but rarely can they be described as “fresh.” No matter what you taste like, if your girl seems to snub her nose at licking the dick, approach her right after you’ve showered.
2. Vomiting isn’t fun. I love to gag on a cock, to have that feeling of “omg, if he doesn’t pull out, I’m going to puke.” Physically, it isn’t a nice feeling. I like it because of the D/s aspect. Since most girls aren’t subs, they don’t like it at all. Instead of forcing yourself in her mouth and making her gag, be gentle. Sure, having her suck on the head a little isn’t going to blow your mind, but work up to the deep-throating. Oh, and invest in some bj cream that numbs the throat if your girl is particularly sensitive.
3. We hate not having a good time. Just because we’re not male doens’t mean that we don’t want to have fun in bed. Many girls hate giving head because it just isn’t fun. How can you make it fun? Talk dirty to her, run your hands through her hair, moan and gasp…in other words, get into it. We’re bored if we’re just sitting there like we’re sucking on a popsickle while you’re asleep.
4. It makes your mouth sore/tired. Sucking isn’t something that is a natural motion, at least not for hours on end. Some girls hate sucking cock because they get tired after five or ten minutes.Have some fun, but if she seems to be losing steam, pull her up and make out for a bit, play with her breasts, or finger her. Then, give her the head push again. Little breaks are enough to keep someone going for a lot longer.
5. We get sick of never getting the favor returned. I love sucking cock as much as any girl can, but sometimes I do get fed up with guys who never offer to return the favor. I don’t expect someone to eat my pussy every night (unless he wants to!), but asking for it is just retarded, since the guy didn’t have to ask me. It doesn’t have to be tit for tat, but your girl will be more willing to suck your cock if you occasionally eat her out without her having to hint that she wants it.
6. Surprises suck. I don’t mind when a guy suddenly cums in my mouth, but even I prefer a little warning. If you (or guys before you) have a history of spurting down her throat unannounced, she might be a little gun shy. You don’t have to ask permission or pull out – but right before you’re going to blow, let her know. It gives her a chance to prepare.
While I do know some girls who hate sucking cock, the fact of the matter is that most don’t. Sometimes, all you have to do is indicate that you want it more often. Just like you may not realize that your girl wants oral more often (trust me…she does), she might not realize that you want to feel her lips around your shaft more often.
And hey, consider that she just might not be ready yet. That’s a possibility, too. Maybe she’ll love sucking your cock eventually if you stick around long enough to build trust.
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I love cunnilingus and always return the favor…..
All very well said sweetie. I personally love sucking cock, always have. But yes…relationships..ALL relationships even including BDSM and D/s are a give and take thing. So to you guys who read this post that Rori wrote above…give back to your partner sometimes..go down on her, she’ll reward you every time you do.Tee-hee. Happy sex everyone!
yah friend, i understand i do …. Actually i love to lick and suck pussy always. Its make me more hotter then shucking my cock by my girl friend…. Some time i lick her pussy so long and sucks her juice, its give me so much pleasesur, as she moan so loudly an d pull my head towards her pussy like she wanted my head and tongue deep in her pussy… Thats why i always prefer 69 possition and some time table.
Well said!
The one that’s the worst for me is the jaw ache one.. Not helped by the fact that the joints in my jaw have medical issues meaning it hurts to open my mouth wide… Needless to say, it has to be on a good day for me to give head. Which sucks (accidental pun, I assure you) as I often really WANT to give him head…
LF x
As a heterosexual male, I’ve only been on the receiving end of this (except for cunnilingus).
But if one action makes your muscles ache, alternate with another. One minute with the mouth, one minute with the hand for instance.
Sometimes you need to give pleasure where perhaps the only pleasure in return is your partner’s enjoyment.
I once told an ex-partner she never did anything to me and showed her how to massage. After 10 seconds she said, “Can I stop now? My fingers are aching.” She said women don’t have to do anything except take their clothes off and the man goes “wild with passion”!
Don’t forget that a man nowadays is expected to copulate as fast as a vibrator! So during sex I add my finger on the clitoris and G-spot. It distracts me from my pleasure but I know it will give my partner an orgasm.
“Sometimes you need to give pleasure where perhaps the only pleasure in return is your partner’s enjoyment.”
I definitely agree. In fact, for me personally, that’s the best kind of sex. Most girls aren’t subs, though, haha. This post was just trying to give a girl’s perspective as to why we’re sometimes just not in the mood to suck cock. I’d love to see a guy write a companion piece to this about what guys hate about eating pussy.
What I dislike about pussy eating… WASH it girls! Douche if necessary. SHAVE it (I prefer completely). Give me verbal feedback if you like what I’m doing and if not, guide me…tell me what you want, don’t wait for me to guess!
the reason most guys don’t like eating pussyis because alot of girls don’t dush regurly or often so if whomen would do that more often then the guy and whomen could enjoy there self alot better
I can’t douche regularly and it’s not natural. Douching causes me to have a yeast infection, so no it’s not for everyone. Cleaning it with water and a wash cloth works just fine as well for girls that have the same problem as me. My guy licks my pussy just fine and I to him.
Love this list every time I see it posted! Just wish more men read it and practiced the cock sucking pleasure principles!!
I’m a guy who found this site through the search term you mentioned. I just wanted to let you know how much guys appreciate this kind of openness and honesty, even if they don’t always show it. A lot of unhappiness could be saved if girls would tell these things to their guys directly, instead of just refusing to do it flat-out even though they’re not totally unwilling but something is putting them off. And while I don’t return the favor every single time I get a blowjob, I *do* return the favor in plenty of instances. And when I say I don’t return the favor every single time, I mean I don’t always go down on here. I do always make sure she gets to cum too. How could you not and avoid feeling like a selfish bastard?
That’s a good policy – it doesn’t have to be tit for tat (no pun intended), because keeping track of who owes what is just unhealthy…but it guys shouldn’t wonder why they don’t get BJs at all if they aren’t willing to eat pussy.
Nam Dy cock smells, he never showers or cleans it well. He needs to shave and if he doesn’t its gives me a rash. And I get tire and I hate the taste.
I’m clean and shaved but my wife don’t like to BJ and also every time I eat here pussy she wants me to stick my dick on here right away she want it fast with out stoping or slowing down after she cam asking me to stop, can wait to leave and divorce here soon… Self…. fuckin fishi…..
Sorry to hear that, Esmer. I hope you find happiness with your next relationship!
yeah this is an older post, but I feel like I should reply to it. I *love* sucking cock. Yeah it sounds dirty, but considering the nature of this blog I think that’s probably okay… I have an extreme oral fixation – I chew my lip, candy, pencils, suckers… on and on. But anyway my two biggest problems with sucking cock are that with my current boyfriend it’s the end of the adventures for a while most days. He finishes and he’s tired which is disappointing cause I’m usually wet as hell after watching him enjoy himself because of my actions. It’s something we need to work on. Bigger problem is the gag reflex. I can deep throat pretty well and I enjoy doing it. Depending how deep it even feels good, but mostly I do it cause I like making my bf feel good. However, if he jams his cock down my throat I end up gagging and, regardless of how it feels, I am more frightened of puking on him than anything else. I don’t want to ruin his moment by that fairly gross act…
So my long winded question here is – is there any way to help that or any advice you can give?
Also I am very jealous of you Rori… you have a kind of confidence I am struggling to find when it comes to who you are.
Hi Sammi, Thanks for leaving a comment! I’m going to answer you questions in a post of its own!
Haaaaaaaaah…!
I like sucking girls……!!!!!!!!!!
I LOVE TO BE SUCKED PROBALLY MORE THEN U LIKE TO SUCK…;)
Like a true gentleman I always return the favor. Or at least offer to
I love sucking dick, if its really big and black. Justv something about having a monster cock in front of me
Steve, Suck mine it is big enough
Personally I hate the fact that guys think every girl is going to swallow or is willing to have cum squirted down them, this has often put me off sucking and I LOVE going down on a guy.
I do hate/fear having cum squirted down my throat or into my mouth because I had the unfortunate experience of being forced to do so. Now while some people may not be comfortable with telling a guy they’ve only just met/started sleeping with that they’re not interested in swallowing it I do.
For those that don’t like it for whatever reason should feel comfortable to tell the guy or refuse to go down on him. It’s a mentality thing that upsets me more then anything else.
Fucking cant believe it how women’s talk openly on forum about sucking cock… just a bunch of fucking whore
And what exactly were you searching on Google to find this website? Or what other site where you reading to click through to this one, considering I’m only linked on other NSFW sites. Hello pot, I’m the kettle. Furthermore, if you think that sucking cock makes a girl a whore, you must has a sad sex life buddy, because real men out there don’t have to pay for blowjobs.
would u suck my dick
Maybe! I mean, I’m not a whore, I don’t just suck guys’ ducks willy-nilly. If we were dating, then definitely, yes.
Maybe your could describe to us just how you like to give a blowjob.. PLease Please
Check out the erotica archives, Jim.
I describe *exactly* how I like to suck cock there multiple times. Yum!
i’m a cocksucker i’m not a whore a whore does it for money i don’t ask for money. a slut sucks any cocks that’s me i’m a slut cocksucker.
Hey Mike,
Yeah I know, what a shame, they will be talking freely about sucking cock here because it is the internet. Nobody will expect them to talk about sucking cock in real life lol.
As for a sad sex life Rori, let me remind you that 90% of married(or in a relationship) men have sex with other women all the time all around the world. Too bad that the tiger woods news last year was shocking for most women but this apply for most men. Whether it is paid sex, an affair or a one night stand. Men are made to conquer as much pussy as possible hahaha.
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It make sense when you look in the animal kingdom,, where male have sex with plenty of female. But since we are human and civilised we hide it because of society
Hey, boys)) you talk about pussy all the time)) not only in the internet..As for married men, well here is some news for you caveman) women do the same..as for blog theme – hmm I love sucking deep, I just hate when boy is smoking..it tastes brrrr, and one tip for a pie – when a girl touches her mouth a lot with fingers or pens or whatever is in her hand..that means for 99% that she loves to suck and 1% illness)) have fun, have good sex, have no fear) Mia
hey…hold one. not only the married guys i bet that girls have more conquer with dick than guys it eassy for girls to find dick..do u know how much talk a guy gat to do to get pussy…..hahhaha the gus know wat i mean
your right it alot of fun
Thank you very much!!! I am wondering if there are an pictures of you on this site anywhere to help me in my naughty fantasies. Don’t worry i am not going to ask you to cyber or anything, but i really like a woman with such enthusiasm.
I don’t post *tons* of pictures, but the ones I do post are here: http://www.betweenmysheets.com/tag/pictures
i love to suck and lick hotttt and fresh pussy..
I LOVE IT…..LOL IMA GUY N ILOVE. DA ARGUMENT N GET MY DICK SUCK…LOL
How can you girls not love swallowing without notice. I’d like to tell a girl that I’m feeding her with creme de la cock. Think of it as rule #3.
It’s not an easy thing to do if you cum a lot. You should try it sometime if you don’t believe me
Fish smelling vagina = bacterial infection = major turn off.
I cant stand an infected vagina. Loose my erection right away.
If a guy wont go down on you. Get yourself cleaned up. Our noses dont lie.
from march 30th, 2010 and last commented on oct.20th, 2011
… wow…
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is sex overrated ??
You’ve got great insights about adult love making easy girls and boys, keep up the good work!
THANK YOU FOR SHARING ABOUT SOME WOMAN’S AVIRSION TO SUCKING DICK. AS ONE WHO DISCOVERED THE ULTIMATE FEMININE EXPERIENCE QUITE BY ACCIDENT AS A 16 YEAR OLD. I FELL IN LOVE WITH SUCKING AS SOON AS I DISCOVERED HOW BEAUTIFUL THE DICK IS! I NEVER GET TIRED OF SUCKING, LICKING AND KISSING A MAN’S BEAUTIFUL DICK BECAUSE I KNOW THAT HIS DICK WILL TAKE ME TO LEVELS OF ESTACY THAT I WOULD HAVE NEER BELIEVED IF I HADN’T DISCOVERED THAM MYSELF BY REALLY GETTING INTO SUCKING A MAN’S BEAUTIFUL DICK. I LOVE HOW I GET TRANSFORMED INTO A SWEET LITTLE DICK SUCKER. THATS WHAT A HARD DICK MAKES ME FELL WHEN I SUCK IT. IT IS BEAUTIFUL!!! ALL THAT PASSIONATE TALK ASIDE, I HAVE A HARD TIME UNDERSTANDING WHY ALL WOMEN HAVEN’T DISCOVERED THE ESTACTIC DANCE THAT COCK SUCKING CAN BRING A WOMAN TO. I THINK IF THEY GET A PROPER DICK SUCKING EXPERIENCE THEY WILL DISCOVER WHAT I DID.
I have always loved to lick my wifes clit and eat her pussy. But only after her shower. It smells like piss or poop if I try it any other time. But I will be the first to jump in with oral everytime and have always loved it before we get to the rest of the love making. I just love the way she feels and it makes her feel. In turn, she almost never does me. Just says it does nothing for her and yes makes her jaws sore. She just like to be done but in 40 years never like to do. Go figure ??
My bf force me to suck his penis but i hate ie…plzzz help me wot to do…hw can a girl lick a apenis…it is dirty..
I think a good start is to stop thinking about it as dirty. It’s only dirty in a GOOD way, don’t make it a bad thing! Try it in the shower if you’re having problems with “freshness” – it can be fun for you that way and feels great for him. Also try a Listerine strip in your mouth as you suck. He’ll love the cooling sensation and it will taste better for you!
I love eating pussy. And I love girls who like sucking cock. Yay! Let’s all fuck each other!!!!
That’s the spirit!
I love when my gf sits on my face with her pussy into my mouth. Turns me on!!
I love this list! I do love sucking cock, but some guys make it difficult. I hate when a guy feels the need to correct me every second. I know what I’m doing! Constructive instructions are ok, but if you’re barking orders every 5 seconds, I get turned off. Thank you for this post!
yahhhhhhhhhhhh i love to suck clitoris as well as vagina . i hate to suck penis .am a lesbian
HM VERY TRUE WHEN I FUCK MY MAID FIRST TIME SHE TRUN ME ON BY KISSING AND AFTER IT I ALSo suck her pussy and after whe i put my cock in front of her she refused to suck it i was very up set bcz of it and i start fucking her from her pussy and then after it i put my cock in her ass also she was feeling to gud bt refused to suck my cock ……….. what can i do now?
I think your first step is to find out *why* she doesn’t want to suck your cock. You can’t change things if you don’t know the problem.
My gf loves sucking my dick nd weneva we find privacy she does it like 4-5 times in a total of 3-4 hrs .. I also want to eat nd lick her pussy and i fascinate about it a lot but wenever we r foreplaying, I dont why I cudn’t do it. First problem is dat it is somewhat wet and the secondly the smell is not encouraging as well..She is very pretty and sexy but I dont know why I cudn’t eat her pussy even though I wanted to. She never insists me to do so,but I personally want to try it .once I tried but the very first lick turned me off due to that smell ,infact i licked her thighs immidiately to get that taste out of my tongue
.. now,after dat first lick, i am wondering how a guy can lick pussies .. i always fantasized it wen i was teenager,but now i am afraid,i will not be able to do it.. but frankly,i want to.. what to do ??
KINDLY SUGGEST ME….
I’d give you the same advice I give girls who are turned off by the taste/smell. First, diet does play a role, so eating more fruits and veggies can help. But it might just be a problem of freshness. It doesn’t mean your girl is unclean. You just naturally get a little sweaty walking around in jeans all day. So try it out in the shower!
For most girls, also keep in mind that taste changes drastically throughout the month. It’s a hormonal thing. So don’t be afraid to try again!
I love sucking cock too and I am a guy. Not gay but a straight bloke who loves a cock in his mouth
It feels so goood. And when a guy comes in my mouth that’s what it’s all about.
Licking the head and slowly sliding his cock down my throat, up and down until he fills my mouth is wonderful. I love getting head too. Men or women.
My utimate fantasy is to suck off 10 guys at once.
Good luck achieving that fantasy! It definitely would take some logistics have that big of an all-male orgy, but it can be done!
I’m actually very suprised to see this kind of openness on a website that is available to the public! Generally, any site without restrictions on posts has major issues of terrible posts containing misspelled words, horrifying grammar, and many other small errors. But here, almost a majority (which is good, considering the subject) of the people here genuinely want to discuss the topics here with real interest! As a very shy person, I would never have the ability to pull something of this magnitude off, I congratulate you Rori, good luck with your site.
The community here is awesome! Thanks for stopping by – hope you’ll join us more often. I’m a very shy person too, so I definitely know how it feels to be afraid to speak up, but don’t worry, we love lurkers too.
I know this is kind of an older article but I had a question about the soda suggestion. Could you possibly elaborate on it a little more? For example: how much soda should one use? Is it more effective when its cold, room temp, or warm? I ask cause I told my husband about it and its really peaked his interest. And this is something I’d like to try for him.
I’ve used all three temperatures of drinks! One guy absolutely loved the contrast of cold of the soda and warm of my mouth, but another guy said it was too much, so he preferred room temp. I’ve also used hot tea when going down on a guy (though definitely make sure it isn’t *too* hot – you should be able to comfortably hold the liquid in your mouth and you def don’t want to burn his cock!). So I said – try ‘em all! Just make sure you only take a little liquid in your mouth at first because otherwise things can get a little messy.
My ex wife could get out of the shower and she still had a foul odor to her vagina, we was married for 15 years.. I got so used to it that when I became single I was eating it left and right. Lol. I actually have had a few girls that had absolutely zero taste or smell at all and two of them told me that they couldn’t take it anymore because I just didn’t wanna stop! Now I have the most perfect girlfriend I’ve ever had but she isn’t to fond of giving oral and it’s really throwing me for a loop! She is great except for this one thing, but when she gets really worked up and hot she sucks it like a pornstar, it’s the best oral ive ever received and I praise her the entire 40 seconds(lol) but I have to almost beg to get it. She has actually squirted while blowing me before and I think that embarrassed her but omg it blew my mind! I think every woman should be able to squirt because its the most erotic experience ever. Anyway, great post! Still going after two years, thanks rori!
Fantastic post. I too have only recently found this site and feel I have to comment.
I love giving blow jobs and hubby says I’m good at it, so I guess I am.
He does his best to return the favour by eating me, but he’s not that good, but that’s another issue. when I’m ‘out of order’ for the couple of days and don’t want to have sex, that’s when he’s most likely to get a full.blow job, and yes I swallow. But the one thing that gets me is that even after eating me he always expects to have sex afterwards. There is never that ‘just for eating sake’ session
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My thoughts on sucking cock:
1) I love the feel of having a guy’s cock in my mouth. Big ones are fun to look at and fondle but cause my jaw to ache and cause me to gag. Small ones are much better…I can get the whole thing in there ( which guys love…bury it till your nose is in his pubes and listen to him moan). I love watching their balls get tight as they get closer to cumming. I love the way their cock suddenly goes rock hard and swells at the point of orgasm. Love the feeling that I can do this to a guy I like.
2) I do not always swallow…just depends on my mood. Sometimes I let it run out ( which turns some guys on ) as they squirt. Sometimes I get them to that point of no return, then finish them off with my hand. I find that smokers, guys who’ve had a few beers and a hamburger (beef) taste the worst…salty, bitter. Guys who are vegitarian and/or drink alot of water test the best…smooth, silky feel, mildy salty. If they’ve had something sweet, then alot of times their cum is slightly sweet too. You can clamp the base of their cock while they cum to regulate the amount that gets shot into your mouth…but remember at the last second to suddenly release the pressure…his load will blast out and its like one more jolt of orgasm for him. If you really do not want to taste any of it…take his cock far into your mouth…as far as you can and let his load pool back there, then in one motion, swallow.
3) If you really want to make him scream in pleasure, and if you know he’s clean “inside”, slide a well lubed finger up his ass about 2 inches…you will feel a small lump on the side closest to his front. That’s his prostate. Massage it with a “come here” motion ( do not scratch with finger nail!). When he cums it will suddenly swell ( keep pushing on it with firm but gentle pressure) and he will absolutely gush cum…while he’s screaming his head off in pleasure! Even the “silent shooters” moan enough to worry the neighbors might hear.
Im bi male and you cant beat scoffing a womans asshole bent over n demolishing her pussy, could do it for hours none stop, same for a man aswell, love it when they bent over with a hanging cock and big balls n sucking n slurping all over there balls n bellend, pulling there cock back and milking it