Today has been entirely too much drama. Some people involved have been extremely courteous. Some people have been dicks.
The issue? There’s two, actually. Both involve people who others feel don’t deserve to be on this list, for whatever reason. I’m not going to go into the issues here, but they’re both highly emotional ones.
I respect that.
At the same time, I’m not involved in any of it. I don’t support either side because frankly, I don’t know anything about it. And I’m not a detective. I’m not a court. And this isn’t a list of “the best people in the world.” This is a list of the people that, in my opinion, have some of the best sex blogs, blogs I like to read and enjoy visiting. For some, it’s because I think they give good advice. For some, it’s because I enjoy their erotica. For some, it’s because I value their reviews.
And then requests started to roll in, asking me to remove so-and-so or so-and-so from the list or else they wouldn’t promote it. News flash: I don’t make this list because I want you to promote Between My Sheets. I make it because I like highlighting some of the blogs I like to read. And, I asked others to participate as judges so everyone could have a little bit of a say.
After taking to D, who’s opinion I rate extremely highly, this is what I’ve decided:
1) No, I will not remove you from the list. This is MY list of favorite bloggers, and it feels like a farce to alter it after I already made the decisions about whom to include. If you contacted me and asked to be removed, I will remove the link to your site so there’s no confusion as to you being a supporter. If you want the link to be put back, I’m more than happy to do so at any time, because frankly, that was the point of the list – to link to people I like. It’s silly to not want others to come to your site because you don’t like someone else also on the list. But in any case, this is MY SITE and I get to support whomever I want, even if that means you don’t support what I’m doing in return. (Think of it this way: If I created a list of the worst sex bloggers, nobody would want to be included – but I still have a right to voice my opinion.)
2) I’ve also included a note that the people on the on the list are not necessarily supporters of this list, so you don’t have to worry about that. You are under NO obligation to repost this list, link to it on your sidebar, etc. whether you were listed or are just a reader. You never were.
3) Next year, this list will go back to being judged 100% by me. I tried to make it a community thing, but when judges have differing opinions, it seems that people get mad. So next year, you can go back to blaming just me and it will become purely my list once again.
4) Comments on this post are closed because none of this is open for debate. Comments everywhere else will remain open, but if you do any name calling or otherwise leave comments that I don’t think are appropriate, I won’t let them go live. That’s my prerogative as the owner of this blog. Disagreeing is fine, but please do it with class.
This is my blog. I get to post what I want. If you don’t like reading it, that’s ok, because there are a hell of a lot of people out there who do, and no matter how much hate I get from you, there will never be hate from me. I respect your decision to be a part of the Between My Sheets community – or to not be part of the Between My Sheets community – and I have no ill will toward anyone who makes the choice to never visit this site again.
About Rori
Rori is the founder of Between My Sheets. She works full time as a writer, reviewer, and online educator and can be reached at rori-at-betweenmysheets.com
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