“We Should Have Got a Sex Pillow; I Think I Broke My Hip.” – Hopefully Not You.
I’m not the kind of person who swears by any particular product while I’m having sex. I’m someone who believes that our Creator gave us everything we needed to have a fully satisfying experience in the bedroom every time – even without a bunch of bells and whistles. However, I’m also a very realistic individual, knowing full well that sex toys and bedroom equipment can transform an otherwise mundane sex life into something worth writing about. With that said, I’ve become a rather huge fan of well-made sex pillows and wedges.
For years, I was arching my back like an Olympic athlete doing the high jump and I didn’t even realize it was a ridiculous thing to do. To get the most favorable position, whether using a toy or having sex with a partner, I would have to twist and contort my body into shapes I didn’t even know was possible and then hold up my own body weight (or my partner’s) for the entire duration of the act. And while I like to think I’m sexy, attractive and physically fit enough to engage in lengthy sessions, it turns out I was wrong…very, very wrong.
Over time, bed pillows were being folded in half and crammed beneath my hips. Blankets were getting rolled up and shoved under my back, and partners were straining to hold up my body weight long enough for my stubborn crotch to catch the wave. The guilt, the shame, the embarrassment, the slathering on of Icy Hot the next day – all things I could live without. l simply felt like there had to be a better way to have good sex, and luckily, so did several modern-day sex toy manufacturers.
Once sex pillows and wedges started gracing the world with their presence, the entire industry started to change. Compatible dildos and vibrators began springing up over night, accessories and specialized lubes became the norm. With a few short years, there were ten-times as many brand names than before. It was obvious that everyone wanted a piece of pillow pie, and for a while that made it easy to find what I was looking for. Fast-forward a few decades when it’s time to buy a new one, and we now have a flooded market that’s virtually impossible to navigate.
Having been a sex pillow pro for many years now, I immediately started to worry about the newbies coming into this world for the first time. How would they know which sex pillow to buy? How could I get them to understand what was important and what was all part of the show? Today’s sex supply manufacturers know that the competition is hot, so that’s why they pull out all the stops when it comes to attracting consumers like me and you. Whether their products are worth our time or not is a discovery that’s (unfortunately) all our own. I’m hoping this buyer’s guide can help get you there with minimal stops.
Before shopping for a sex pillow, though, it’s important that you understand what one is and isn’t, plus you’ll probably find it helpful to know the following things about yourself first:
- Your Intentions
Before ever going shopping, know exactly what you want this new sex pillow for. And although you’ll most likely do plenty of experimentation on a good one, the only way to find it is to make sure it can fulfill its main objective first.
- Your Body Type
Make sure to know how much you and/or your partner weighs and how much you both weigh together. Most sex pillows have a general weight capacity, although the limit can vary widely.
- Your Toy Collection
Understand that some sex pillows are made specifically to be used with a dildo or vibrator and not simply just with a partner and whatever love stick he or happens to be carrying. If you want to hump your toys at leisure, make sure the pillow is friendly with what’s in your collection.
- Your Budget
Last but not least, always formulate a flexible budget before heading to the market. This will not only help you compare what’s out there but it will also make it easier for you to say “no” to products that aren’t right for you.
The path of self-discovery is one of the most important journeys anyone can take. Without an intimate knowledge of self, even a diligent and frugal person can fall victim to the pitfalls of clever advertising. However, now that you know a little more about yourself it should be easier to dodge the spears of bullshit. Next up: A quick overview of what a sex pillow is (and isn’t).
What Is a Sex Pillow?
Technically, a sex pillow isn’t a pillow at all, at least not in the sense you’re probably thinking. Albeit soft enough to suffice for a good night’s sleep if it has to, the average sex pillow is slightly larger and firmer than most of us prefer at bedtime. Ergonomically shaped to meet the demands of the human body in motion, a good sex pillow will make you want to do anything but snooze. So, while that folded-up bed pillow of yours might have been doing a good job for quite a while now, it’s time to upgrade your sex game a bit by getting a legit sex pillow up in there.
High-quality sex pillows come in a variety of shapes and sizes, and some are even referred to based on their overall design – wedges, ramps, etc. And like a Reece’s, there is no wrong way to enjoy a sex pillow. The main idea is to purchase a sex pillow that’s ideal for your lifestyle, body type and intentions, whether that be something huge and versatile or something small and simple. Sex pillows are designed to hold up the weight of the human body in various positions, thereby promoting better and safer sexual experiences. In other words, a good one will help you and your partner remain laid back and relaxed during sex, thereby allowing you both to channel all that extra energy into your love-making.
And unlike bed pillows and rolled-up blankets, well-made sex pillows won’t bunch or pinch, nor will they flatten under the weight of your body over time. As long as the pillow you pick is made from dense materials and you carefully measure your own body weight beforehand, there should be no problems. In fact, many doctors and chiropractors actually suggest using sex pillows, especially to people who have existing injuries and/or mobility problems.
Why a Sex Pillow Though?
Because back lives matter. Without enough support during certain sexual acts, you and/or your partner could sustain a serious injury. Sadly, there are millions of reported cases of sexually-related injuries in the United States alone. And many of those injuries were either completely avoidable or caused by improper bedroom equipment. So, while the numbers may be fudged due to many people refusing to tell the truth about why they’re in the emergency room, one thing is for certain: Using a good sex pillow can protect you and/or your partner(s) from having unwanted war stories to share.
But aside from a sex pillow’s innate ability to keep you from getting hurt, the right one can also improve your sex life tremendously. Imagine finally getting your lover into that difficult position you read about in the Kama Sutra without having to apologize for scrapes, strains and sprains afterwards. It’s like having your cake and eating it too, only you’ll be burning calories instead of taking them in. Best of all, most of today’s best sex pillows are made with washable fabrics that allow you to get as down and dirty as you want without having to worry about difficult cleanup routines. No more washing entire loads of bed clothes or throwing away saturated blankets when you have a decent sex pillow on hand.
Of course, the hard part is figuring out which sex pillows are worth your time. It seems as though every major sex toy manufacturer has come out with their own version, so which ones are best and how do you know? Keep reading to find out.
The Top 7 Ways to Tell If That Sex Pillow Is Worth It or Not
Simply looking at a sex pillow will not give you the information you need about it, nor will listening to the manufacturer’s attractive description of each. You’ll need some serious discernment here, but the only way you’ll ever get that is by knowing what to look for or consider when shopping. So, without further ado, here are the top seven things I think are most important when it comes to selecting a new sex pillow:
- The Size
I try not to be one of those people who focuses too much on the size of something, but there are certain things in life that require a closer look in that department. When it comes to sex pillows, its relative size matters quite a bit. If it’s too small, it may not work the way you want it to. If it’s too large, same thing. A disproportioned sex pillow will actually do the opposite of what it’s designed for.
- The Shape
Keep in mind that the shape of whichever sex pillow you buy will play a huge role in how much fun you have with it. Also, remember that sex pillows come in a wide variety of shapes, from flat or square to triangular or rounded. In fact, one of the best things to come out of the increased demand for better sex pillows is the versatility thereof.
The shape of your sex pillow should assimilate nicely into your existing sex life while also promoting more adventurous play and being ideal for your unique body type (and, of course, the body type of your partner). There is no perfect shape for everybody, but a sex pillow that cannot be used in numerous ways may not suffice for some people. Think carefully about what you want to do with your pillow and then find one that’s shaped accordingly.
- The Materials
The materials with which your new sex pillow is made can change your experience with it dramatically. Soft materials feel great on the skin, but they may be difficult to maintain. It’s a double-edged sword you must face unless you find a sex pillow that has it all. You should also know that some materials, albeit soft and luxurious, may not be compatible with all types of lube. For example, silicone and oil-based lubes are notoriously difficult to wash off no matter what material they come in contact with. Keep that in mind when selecting your first (or next) sex pillow and/or the lubrication you plan to use with it.
- The Stuffing
Sex pillows are lot like people – it’s what’s on the inside that counts. So, if that pillow you’re considering isn’t robust enough to stay inflated during hardcore sex, then it’s probably not the right one for you (or anybody for that matter). Most of today’s top sex pillow varieties come standard with super dense stuffing materials that not only resist squishing but also bounce back quickly after being exposed to pressure. Those types are typically high-end, well constructed and ideal for individuals who have issues knowing where they’re going to store their sex pillow when playtime is over.
- The Versatility
I touched base a little on this already, but considering the versatility of any sex pillow in your shopping cart is vital, especially if you plan to use yours in a variety of ways. Some sex pillows can open, shut and/or fold into a shape and/or size of your choosing, while others are designed to stay relatively the same size and shape forever. Not that there’s anything wrong with a sex pillow that remains constant, it’s just that those models seem to defeat the purpose. Such a characteristic may make it difficult to customize your experience, not to mention it could make things awkward when having sex with different partners.
- The Compatibility
As mentioned earlier, some sex pillows are compatible with certain sex toys like dildos and vibrators. Look for specialized toy holders and holes on the pillows and make sure you check the dimensions thereof. Compare those numbers to the measurements of your favorite sex toys to make sure everything will work together nicely. As cool as that feature is, it’s important to know that it’s not a one-size-fits-all deal. And since toy compatibility comes at a premium, don’t waste your money unless you’re absolutely sure everything fits.
- The User-Friendliness
While the materials of that sex toy will affect how good it feels on your skin during sex, it will also play a role in how easy the after-party cleanup is. Luxury materials like satin, velvet and silk may not fare so well against certain types of lube and/or body fluids. Then again, the wrong lube can ruin any fabric it touches. Still, my advice is to stick with user-friendly stuff like nylon, polyester and cotton or a blend thereof. Look for things like zipper-style or Velcro removeable covers, avoiding buttons if you can. Think: snags. Not good.
Once you’ve carefully gone over each of the seven factors mentioned above you should be able to further narrow down your search for the best sex pillow, even if you still have no idea where to start looking. Before proceeding to the next section, jot down a list of the things you’d like to have and/or avoid then compare it to the recommendations below.
The Three Kings (+1): My Favorite Sex Pillows
I know that this whole thing feels like a pain the ass – the kind you’re trying to avoid being as you’re in the market for a new sex pillow. Trust me, I get it, but it’s a little pain now or a lot later. You choose. As such, here are what I consider to be the top three sex pillows available in the industry today:
BEST OVERALL: The Liberator Hipster
The ultimate in sex pillow ergonomics and design, the Liberator Hipster allows for better, more comfortable access to the genitals during sex and oral stimulation. The curved shape provides more than enough lumbar support, making it suitable for big-breasted and/or pregnant women. Filled with the brand’s patented high-density foam, the supportive cushioning is covered by a lush, microfiber cover that features a moisture-proof nylon liner. Easy to take care of and use, the cover can be removed viz zipper and placed directly in the washing machine. This bad boy also comes in four different colors to further customize your experience (Merlot, Aubergine, Black and Espresso).
PRO: Moderately priced for such a well-made sex pillow, the Liberator Hipster is the perfect product for people with bad backs, hip problems, or mobility issues.
CON: It cannot be folded into different shapes.
MOST VERSATILE: The Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo
This sexy and versatile option not only comes in three different colors (blue, chocolate and black) but it’s also designed to function in at least three different ways (if not more). As the best-made wedge/ramp combo available yet, the Liberator is a sex pillow shoppers wet dream. It offers virtually limitless positioning options, plus it supports your body with a high-density foam also prevents sinking into the bed. The soft, moisture-wicking microfiber cover is lined, removeable, and machine-washable too, making this one of the easiest and most enjoyable sex pillows to own.
PRO: The durable and sturdy Liberator stays true to its name by freeing up your inhibitions in the bedroom and inspiring the confidence to explore difficult positions.
CON: It may be too expensive for people who aren’t sure how to incorporate a sex pillow into their routine.
BEST FOR TRAVEL: The Inflatable Toughage
Whether on the road a lot or simply in the market for something a little more discreet, the Toughage inflatable sex pillow may be the ideal model. Inflate it for fun, deflate it for storage, and stick this 14x17x6-inch sex pillow wherever you deem worthy on your trip. Made from a skin-safe PVC with a smooth velvet-like fabric finish, this bad boy can be cleaned with the wipe of a wet cloth right after you manifest your latest wet dream. Lightweight and portable, this heavy-duty sex pillow will outlast all other travel-friendly models with proper care and maintenance.
PRO: The Toughage is the perfect sex pillow for traveling, overnight parties, and round-the-clock sexual discretion.
CON: It does not have a removeable cover and can become deflated if punctured.
BONUS – The Liberator Jazz
This high-end sex pillow is more than meets the eye. Made from the same well-known company that creates the Hipster and Combo Wedge, the Liberator Jazz is a cost-effective solution that’s ideal for newbies and sexperts alike. With a removable, machine-washable cover that’s hiding the brand’s telltale high-density foam, this relatively small model can come along on trips or be stored under the bed with ease. Featuring a shorter height with zero curve, this wedge-style sex pillow may not be suitable for people with mobility problems but it’s most certainly a good product for folks who need a little boost in the bed.
PRO: It’s an affordable alternative to any of the sex pillows mentioned on this list.
CON: The material it’s covered with can be cold to the touch.
The End Game
Making the most of your bedtime routine is no small matter, especially when bodies start to break down or when positions become more complicated. Sex pillows are designed to help support the human body during sex, but the positions you and your partner can achieve will depend on which model you select. As long as all the features come together to give guys a great sexual experience (hopefully more than once), that’s all that matters. If you two require a wedge/ramp combo pillow with a super-soft microfiber cover that can be removed and thrown into the washing machine, then so be. Life is about living, so don’t be afraid to live it up.