So it’s official. Rori is off the market. Yesterday (which was, coincidentally, my birthday), the new dom in my life and I decided to make things official. After…god…years of being single, I’m taking the plunge and committing myself to someone else. I haven’t had a real boyfriend since V and that ended in Fall 2009. Holy fuck that was a long time ago.
But now a man named Cash has come into my life. He’s so sweet and romantic and wonderful that it scares me a little. He’s someone I felt submissive toward since the moment I met him, and I can say without a shadow of a doubt that he is the best dom I’ve ever had. I mean, that’s not to say that I haven’t had amazing sex in the past. D and V are both amazing men, but our sex drives and bedroom interests didn’t really match up. Cash and I are very similar, yet he also pushes my boundaries and respects my limits. We just mesh really well, so the sex and play is amazing. There’s no pressure. There’s no part of me left wanting. It’s just…easy.
The downside is the distance. He doesn’t live close-by. Same state, but a good three or four hour drive, depending on traffic. It’s not ideal, and I honestly don’t know if I can handle it or not. I think I owe it to him and to myself to try, though.
Cash met most of my friends last weekend. That was nerve-wracking for me. I’m not sure how he felt about it. My friends are very important in my life, and it’s a tough crowd for any newcomer. You have to understand, we’ve been friends since grade school, and we’re all in our upper 20s now. We’re all fiercely protective of one another. And really, I’m a lot geekier and liberal than my friends – and Cash is a lot geekier and liberal than I am. So while Cash and I have a lot in common, but I’m not sure just how much he has in common with the rest of the group. There were a few points during the night he referenced something super geeky like anime or Robot Chicken and was met with blank states. Awkward? A little. It’s important to me that anyone I date be able to fit into our circle, and it’s not an easy thing for a new boyfriend to do. So we’ll see how that goes. I think, at the core, they want me to be happy and for my man to treat me well, and Cash definitely checks both of those boxes.
What’s really important here is not my friends, though, but rather how he treats me. When I’m with him (and even when I’m not), I feel like a total princess. I can be super goofy around him and he things it’s cute. I don’t have to try to be perfect. He makes me feel like I’m already good enough, and that’s something I haven’t had in the past. He’s not jealous of the fact I’m still friends with some of my exes and past lovers, and he’s willing to compromise to build a relationship together when we don’t see eye to eye. I’m definitely still in that “awww, he’s perfect” stage, but so far I feel really good about this.
I already wrote a little about Cash here. There will be more to come. I’m still a little float-y about the whole whirl-wind of a birthday I’ve had. It will be interesting to transition into having a boyfriend again. I’m out of practice. Any tips, guys and gals?
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Congratulations on finding someone to be with! As far as the transition, just take things at a pace that you are comfortable with and have as much fun as possible.
Thanks, Jon! We’re definitely having a lot of fun and he’s been VERY accommodating in terms of taking things slow.
Congrats Rori! Meeting the friends is always tricky… I have had difficulties with it as well. You aren’t alone. I’m sure that once they continue to hang out with him, things will get better.
Thanks, Julie! I don’t think they disliked him or anything…I just think they’re a hard group to crack! But yeah, I think over time, it will get better, or at least I’ll be less nervous about it!
Congratulations! I’m in awe of anyone having the bravery to open up to a committed relationship. My heart is so broken I simply fuck myself silly these days.
Thank you, Hyacinth!