I never considered myself much of a "snuggler" after sex, until Daddy. He’s a cuddler. He likes to hug and kiss and lay together. And really, I’ve found that I like it too.
Its such a different experience when you’re dealing with someone who actually wants to cuddle with you. In past relationships, the men’s I’ve been with always wanted their space. I don’t just mean after sex. I mean in general. But when I sit next to Daddy while watching TV, he often pulls me to him, wanting me to lay on his shoulder or lap.
It’s a nice feeling, just laying together.
I have this friend who I’ll just call CM. I’ve been friends with CM since long before I even knew Daddy, and while there was a bit of sexual tension between us at one time, we never even kissed, and that sexuality has faded. CM and I got into a conversation about touch one night, and I found it really interesting.
What he said is that we live in a society that doesn’t like to touch. Other than puppy love teens, how many couples do you see holding hands at the mall? People here greet one another with a wave, not a hug and double kiss like in Europe. It’s like we all want this invisible glove to protect us from everyone else.
Do we really need protection?
I know, I know, there are a lot of gross germs out there. Really, though, we need touch. That’s what CM and I talked about. Sometimes, when not in a relationship, we go weeks or months without really touching another person. It doesn’t have to be sexual – just a skin-to-skin touch like a handshake can make us feel alive.
Daddy makes me feel alive.
He wants to touch me, he wants to feel me, and he wants to have that human contact with me. There’s no invisible glove. He doesn’t want his space. He wants to feel me, know that I’m real, know that I’m his.
I don’t think I could ever again be in a relationship with someone who didn’t want that. Now that I’ve experienced what it feels like to want to be touched, I know that it really was missing in my past relationships. I don’t need to be snuggling with someone every moment of the day, but when someone wants to feel you against him, to be happy, not just to make you happy, that’s a powerful type of feeling.
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Rori is the founder of Between My Sheets. She works full time as a writer, reviewer, and online educator and can be reached at rori-at-betweenmysheets.com
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