If you’re new to Between My Sheets, the Rori’s Story section of my blog can be pretty confusing. Without knowing my back story, nothing makes sense.

You can read through my archives, but that might take awhile considering there are 400+ posts in there! Instead, let me catch you up to speed:

Between My Sheets (originally called Between the Sheets) was started as part of a huge blog network circa 2006. I took it over from another writer in 2007, and by late that year, that the blog was becoming my baby, evolving from a general place where a generic writer talked about sex-related bs to my story of submission and tips I learned along the way. The network gave me the option to leave with my work, and I took it. I started Between My Sheets, the site you’re reading today, and it’s been amazing every since.

I’m Rori. I’m glad you’re here with me on this crazy journey.

Since this is a sex blog, most of the content relates to the men (and women) in my life. I’ve divided my life over the last five years into little “chapters” to help you catch up on the story and the cast of characters involved.

First, a few characters:

  • J and the Girl Next Door: Two neighbors I used to fuck around with
  • Daddy, or D: My first dom and to date, my best friend despite our history
  • The Student: A fun lover
  • V: A dom I dated briefly
  • The Cowboy: A dom who I felt a very deep connection to, but who made life way too complicated
  • MM: A Married Man who had an affair with me for several months
  • The Prince: A long-time, long-distance friend who I slept with on his vacation
  • Cash: The dom I am currently dating

Here’s how the story plays out:

Chapter One: J and the Girl Next Door: When I first started BMS, I was involved with a guy named J and his partner. They lived next door to me, hence the name. It was fun, but messy, and I’ve since moved (multiple times). We haven’t kept in touch, and I’m okay with that, but if you dig really deep, there are some awesome stories and fantasies about them.

Chapter Two: Daddy (D): Around the time I moved my blog to my own URL (early 2008), I met D at work. We hit it off right away and what started as innocent flirting soon escalated into much more. We brought an interesting element into the relationship – the curiosity to explore a Dominant/submissive (or D/s) relationship, so you’ll see many older posts refer to him as Daddy and there are even a few very early ones where we played around with “Master” before settling on Daddy. By spring 2008, he officially became my first dom, but he cheated on me and we broke up in October.

Chapter Three: 2009: I pined after D for a long time, but in April 2009, The Student came into my life. The Student was pure fun. We knew that a relationship would never work because we ultimately have different goals in life, but damn if we weren’t going to have some fun. And we did! Meanwhile, D and I continued a guarded friendship.

I started dating a Dom named V in July 2009. We had fun together, but the spark, the passion, the love…it wasn’t really building, as much as we both wanted it to, even though the sex was fun. After breaking up with V, The Student and I hooked up a few more times in 2009, but he eventually moved away for grad school.

Chapter Four: My Lovers Meet: Around the time I broke things off with V (fall 2009), I met a Married Man, otherwise known as MM. We innocently snuggled up together one night, and there was chemistry from the moment we met one another. When we met, at a work-related conference, D was also there (as was The Student…talk about complicated, right?). It was the first time D had seen me in person in a long time…and definitely the first time he saw me that I wasn’t in love with him anymore. It was a breaking point for him, and after that weekend, I got a text from D that he needed to leave my life because he couldn’t stand the thought that we weren’t together. MM and I continued our friendship, but never did more than kissing and flirt due to distance and his marital status.

Chapter Five: The Cowboy: In November 2009, a beautiful soul, who I’ll call The Cowboy came into my life. He was a dom, though we never hooked up. We had a blooming friendship but I grew to rely on him way too much for emotional stability because I was feeling so alone. Looking back on it, although he was sweet person, being around him was holding me back in life and feeding into my depression and anxiety. Eventually, around February 2010, he freaked out completely (over what? I’ll never truly understand), and left my life. I’m okay with that, but at the time, it really hit me hard. Posts from that time period are pretty dark.

Chapter Six: D, Round Two: In March 2010, D and I decided to attempt repairing our friendship. We had both grown a lot in the prior six months. In fact, by the beginning of April, we were even talking about getting back together, but I wanted to move slowly and rebuild our friendship first. I still didn’t fully trust him.

Then, at the end of April, I got really sick and was in the hospital. It scared D. A lot. More importantly, he realized that his feelings for me weren’t leading to a relationship outside of a friendship. I missed that memo, though.

In June, he met someone else. I didn’t think much of it, because I thought he was still into me, just moving slow at my request. We moved in together (separate bedrooms), and although we initially fooled around, things blew up when I found out that he was more interested in the girl he met in June than he was in me. We continued to live together throughout 2010 due to logistics, but things were super rough.

Chapter Seven: MM: In January 2011, while still living with D (and unhappily watching him try to get with the other girl), I met up with MM again. We had remained friends and flirted since initially meeting in late 2009, but finally hooked up, in a major way. We’re talking an entire four-day weekend in a hotel together, sometimes messing around for hours upon hours upon hours. He decided that he needed to talk to his wife of 10 years about how unhappy he was in their marriage.

In April 2011, I decided to move. The move would put me closer to MM and a number of other friends, and it would be healthier for my friendship with D if we didn’t live together. When I initially moved (now within a half-hour drive of MM), we saw one another often and hooked up a handful of times. He did talk to his wife somewhat, but it didn’t really change anything. I grew more and more frustrated with our arrangement.

Chapter Eight: Standing Up for Myself: In June, a guy called The Prince that I’ve virtually flirted with for years decided to stop by as part of a road trip. There were definitely sparks and we hooked up, even though we knew nothing could come of it since he lived so far away. It did, however, make me realize that things with MM were really stupid. So one night, after drinking too much, I gave him a piece of my mind and told him that he was treating me unfairly and I didn’t want to hook up anymore. It was a good decision. We’ve remained friends, but hold one another at a distance.

Chapter Nine: Cash: Since breaking things off with MM in June 2011, I’ve realized that what I really need is to get back to my BDSM desires. MM wasn’t into that at all, and even D wasn’t really interested in dominating me during our second go-round. I went out on a few dates and continued to flirt with The Prince virtually, but no one seemed to be a good fit and The Prince started dating someone new. Then I met Cash. As of February 2012, I’m officially off the market and enjoying exploring my submissive side with this wonderful dom, who came into my life unexpectedly and refused to leave, even when I tried to push him away. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for us.

So anyway, thanks again for being here. It means a lot that you all care enough to read what I have to say. I have a lot of cool things planned for BMS in 2012 and beyond, so I hope you’ll stay here with me. Love you all!

xoxoxoxoxox, Rori

Want to read more? You can check out my list of 100 things, which I update every six months or so!


  1. Molly March 22, 2011 at 3:49 am -  Reply

    Great intro in you and this blog. I hate it when I come across established blogs and they don’t have something like this. This is well written and makes me want to come back and pick up this blog again.


  2. Twiggy Tom October 27, 2011 at 6:34 am -  Reply

    I just stumbled upon your blog Rori and after reading “Does Your Girlfriend Hate Blow Jobs?”, my mind then wondered who is this Rori? hehe… so well i am a very curious person and once i began to read through your very detailed backdrop of who you are, I feel that i would be struck down by lightening tomorrow if I didn’t at least say how i loved reading the sections that i have read.

    I am actually bi-curious, and I do find it difficult when i am with a guy and they ask for a blow job, for some reason i just cringe, but like a good trooper i just close my eyes and do the deed (yeah probs too much for a rainy thursday) lmao! So reading some of your posts has really helped me to try and enjoy it more.

    Well this is getting rather long (the message that is, no puns intended) so i will look around some more and be sure to hear from again very soon (:

    oh and my name “Twiggy Tom” its a nickname that my friend gave me and i rather like it lol.

    Tom (:

  3. Stu December 28, 2011 at 3:27 pm -  Reply

    I’m so glad to have found your blog! Looking forward to following you.

    • Rori December 28, 2011 at 3:29 pm -  Reply

      Glad you found me too, Stu! :D

  4. Biddrohi January 26, 2012 at 12:34 pm -  Reply

    Hey Rori,

    Awesome intro there. Loved it totally :)

    Its got style & flavour – things that come from a great writer. Btw, I am setting up this activist porn concept blog: https://nognoporjatontor.wordpress.com

    Its new here where I am – Bangladesh. Wat are ur thoughts on this? leme knw

    Cheers :)

  5. Kat Bryant April 23, 2013 at 8:02 pm -  Reply

    I just stumbled upon your blog. It has been quite inspirational. I love seeing new thought and ideas, with some really…juicy stories.

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  6. Johnney May 26, 2013 at 9:00 am -  Reply

    Hey Rori,
    Thanks for sharing your history. Now I know where you’re coming from. I can’t wait to read about your bdsm lifestyle. I have been so curious to try it but haven’t found the right partner yet. I’m looking for a strong Dom. I so want to submit. Anyway, a hunting I will go to learn more from you.

  7. kinquie September 5, 2013 at 4:02 pm -  Reply

    Hi Rori,

    I discovered your blog through rebelsnotes.com [whom I like to nominate for the sexblog of the year]. I read your introduction and I’m inmdiately fond of your blog and your writing. I’m to read a lot more of you and will look around on your blog quite a few times. Let me briefly introduce myself. My nickname is Kinquie, I’m a 57 yo man from Holland with a passion for the good life in general and tv/bdsm especially. I also keep a website, http://www.zwartenrood.nl (black-and-red)om which I publish my writings, facts & fiction, and a lot of (stylish) photographs. There will not be much to read for you, I guess, for most of the texts are in Dutch. But, of course you’re welcome. So, you will find me every now and than on your blog and leave some comments. Nice to be here. Kindest regards, Kinquie.
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    • Rori September 5, 2013 at 9:46 pm -  Reply

      Thanks for reading, Kinquie!!!! I don’t speak Dutch unfortunately, but I’ll keep my eyes open for anything English and I definitely hope to see you around here on Between My Sheets. :)

  8. Dan April 2, 2014 at 11:21 am -  Reply

    Your’s is one of my top five sex blogs and I check yours each week as you are:
    a)honest, tell your story
    b) great content and new stuff ea wk; and why I look each week
    c) great writing and great topics
    d) I learn stuff here!
    I’m thinking/planning to start a SexLoveandGodBlog this year as an older married guy interested in spirituality, kink, sex, relationships. Yet I notice 80% of sex blogs are (wonderfully so) written by women; and younger women.
    What of the older demographic? I read 10 blogs, Joan Price is one. What of the married and non poly yet kink friendly demo? And are you 20ish or 30ish or 40ish? And does it even matter?
    Love your stuff; and I try to comment when I can; good blogging Karma, no?

  9. Kat May 25, 2015 at 2:23 am -  Reply

    This is simply the best About Me I’ve come across! I wish other bloggers had such a full introduction to their blog! I feel I have all the background I need to read through your site and for it all to make sense. Well done! You are an example for us all.
    Kat x

  10. Blaze Cook June 9, 2015 at 12:01 am -  Reply

    Awesome site!

    I just found it and have already read about half a dozen posts.

    Keep up the good work!

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