Gay Sex Toy Buyer’s Guide

Because Horny Is the Queer Who Wears the Crown.

Is it just me or do gays have more fun? I mean, that’s a stereotype I’d like to hear more about. But regardless of opinions, tastes and appetites, there’s one thing that’s for sure: Gay sex toys here and they’re queer, so get used to it.

Today’s sex toy industry plays a special role in the average homosexual’s love life. With hundreds of different toy types, thousands of models of each type, and enough features on them all to choke a donkey, it’s almost impossible to find what you need. Even professional perverts like me have a hard time getting what I want, and that’s why I’ve decided to give you guys a comprehensive rundown about gay sex toys in general. What can I say? I’m a bleeding heart.

Had someone told me this stuff about gay sex toys a long time ago, I would have avoided so many terribly uncomfortable situations. Awkwardly using heteronormative sex toys wasn’t getting me anywhere, but I refused to admit that for way too many years. After giving in to peer pressure by succumbing to a series of incomparable orgasms, I finally realized that the best way to reach climax was with a sex toy that was as gay as I am.

What Is a Gay Sex Toy?

A gay sex toy is actually just a regular sex toy, it’s just that it’s more enjoyable for homosexual activity that for heterosexual activity. And perhaps that’s not even the best definition. Maybe gay sex toys are just a special breed of marital aid designed specifically for same-sex pleasure and arousal. Yeah, that sounds a lot better, plus it’s probably more accurate. Either way, gay sex toys are a special brand of pleasure product made to inspire passion, improve relationships and set free the inhibitions that so often come along with using heterosexual playthings for homosexual activities.

Today’s sex toy industry is flooded with relatively appealing options for the average king of queens, many of which look eerily similar to one another and function quite the same too. Finding the right one usually requires a fundamental understanding that no two products are alike. Like snowflakes, they must all be considered on an individual basis. Furthermore, you also have to realized that there are several different types of sex toys that can be categorized as “gay,” although many of them can be used by heterosexual couples as well. The top 15 most common types of gay sex toy are as follows:

  • Chastity Devices 

An extremely popular device used in BDSM, made to prevent your male lover from achieving a full erection until you grant him permission. It can be used in conjunction with some other sex toys and can also be worn non-stop with proper care and maintenance.

  • Cock Rings 

A hot-selling item that gets wrapped about the base of the penis shaft and/or around the balls to prolong and strengthen the wearer’s erection or prevent premature ejaculation. It can also be used in conjunction with other sex toys.

  • Male Masturbators 

A manually-powered or automatic machine designed to mimic the sensations of intercourse or oral sex through variable stroke speeds and lengths using a variety of sleeves and textures. Many are even compatible with virtual reality porn content and/or other masturbator devices.

  • Penis Pumps 

A penis enhancement device used primarily to promote instantaneous penile growth and plumping through suction or traction. It can’t be used for more than 30 minutes but many come with an effective exercise program to maximum results and turn temporary growth into semi-permanent change.

  • Penis Extenders 

A penis enhancement device used primarily to promote an increase in penile length and/or straightness through applied long-term traction. Many models can be worn under clothes for several hours at a time, and most offer semi-permanent or permanent results within just a few short months.

  • Ball Stretchers 

A weighted, secure device that gets placed around the base of the wearer’s balls to promote stretching through extended wear. It can be worn under clothes, for several hours and doesn’t prevent the wearer from enjoying other types of stimulation.

  • Enemas/Douches 

A personal hygiene product that sometimes doubles as a hydro-stimulation device. It is placed inside the anal canal and either squeezed or opened to release an adjustable jet of water or cleaning solution.

  • Electrosex Gear 

A type of unisex marital aid popular among gays and straights alike which uses gentle pulses of electricity to induce muscle contractions and pleasure. E-stim is often used as an alternative to standard vibrations and is found on all kinds of sex toys.

  • Bondage Gear 

A type of unisex marital aid that’s commonly used in BDSM roleplaying to prevent the submissive from moving or to hold them in a specific position. It may also include things like ball gags, blindfolds and whips.

  • Dildos 

A shaft-shaped pleasure device used for vaginal and/or anal sex and/or masturbation. It may be realistic with skin-like materials and a veiny shaft, or it could be fantasy based in its design with just a rounded head on top of hyperpigmented colors or polished metal.

  • Vibrators 

A vibrating sex toy that comes in a wide variety of shapes and sizes, used for vaginal, anal or nipple stimulation and guaranteed to increase pleasure and togetherness, especially with all the couples-friendly options now available.

  • Prostate Massagers 

An somewhat unisex anal pleasure device made to provide direct stimulation to the prostate gland (p-spot), inspiring intense internal orgasms that can be coupled with or enhanced by the simultaneous use of other sex toys.

  • Butt Plugs 

A conical, pyramid-shaped anal pleasure device that’s both unisex and compatible with other toys. It can be made from a variety of materials, feature different textures and often comes in sizes based on the user’s experience level.

  • Anal Beads 

An undulated string of various sized balls made from a range of skin-safe materials, used to provide customizable pleasure to the anal canal (or vagina, as a matter of fact). Lengths and ball circumferences differ greatly and can be tailored to the wearer’s specifications.

  • Sex Dolls and Torsos 

A type of full-sized or miniature sex toy that have the appearance or functionality of a real human partner, complete with human-like characteristics such as hair and dimples as well as (sometimes) interactive features that combine virtual reality with online porn experiences.

There are so many sex toys I didn’t even get to mention because they fall under one of the categories above. Excuse me while I get excited about you spreading your wings. My little butterfly, just know that gay sex toys can be anything you want them to be. And although they’re generally characterized as a type of well-made marital aid that’s used exclusively between same-sex couples, the idea is to create the kind of sex life you truly desire, even if that means sifting through a stack of sex toys to get it.

But simply knowing what a gay sex toy is (and isn’t) won’t get you far enough to find the device(s) you need. At some point, you’ll also have to start appreciating what a good gay sex toy can bring to the table. You’ve always been such a grateful person. Why not extend that gratitude to the fine folks who have invented these toys we now get to become frustrated over. After all, our horny ancestors were caught busting their nuts into stale loaves of bread and on top of carved chalk dildos. Talk about the Great Depression.

Why a Gay Sex Toy Though?

There’s nothing wrong with owning a large number of gay sex toys. They say variety is the spice of life, and healthy sexual exploration can pose countless benefits. According to research, the average sexually active LBGTQ member now owns between 1 and 5 sex toys, with many of those people wishing they had a few more. The reason for their insatiable desire tends to rest somewhere among the efficacy of the toy itself and the perversion level of said user. Still, high-quality gay sex toys have the power to completely revolutionize your love life, simply by providing you and/or your partner with the tools required to generate a mind-blowing orgasm.

Well-made sex toys for gays are safe, sexy and super satisfying if you get the right one and know how to use it right. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all option available right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still reap the following 5 benefits:

  • Gay Sex Toys Provide the Tools of the Trade  

Making love as a same-sex couple can be complicated, especially if you don’t have all the tools you need to pleasure your partner. Contemporary toys can sometimes suffice in a pinch, but many modern-day models leave much to be desired for the gay community. Whether needing a strap-on, a harness for your favorite dildo, a durable cock ring or an enormous butt plug, the gay sex toy industry has everything you need to recreate the sexual fantasies that you’ve had rolling around in your mind.

  • Gay Sex Toys Bring Luxury to the Bedroom 

Instead of always using whatever’s available to experience the kind of sexual pleasure that you and/or your partner desires, why not include a high-quality sex toy to enjoy maximum arousal with minimal headache? Today’s best gay sex toys are not only made from the highest grade materials but they also have a ton of user-friendly features that are designed just make you look and feel like a professional pervert. So, throw away those rudimentary sex toys you’ve been hoarding and give yourself and your lover the type of lovins that you both deserve.

  • Gay Sex Toys Let You Experiment Safely 

Using common household objects or sex toys designed specifically for heterosexual play isn’t just silly, it’s potentially dangerous. Gay sex toys allow you and/or your partner to experiment with random ideas without putting anyone in harm’s way. On top of that, sex toys made exclusively for gays tend to have specialized features for the kinds of lovemaking typically experienced between same-sex couples. Well-made, durable and supportive of your appetites, modern-day sex toys for gay men and women provide the warm coziness you require to expand your primal horizons.

  • Gay Sex Toys Are Tailor-Made for Homosexual Activity 

As mentioned above, most of today’s best gay sex toys are made specifically for homosexual romance. Whether we’re talking about a device that provides you/your lover with a spare body part or a product that’s designed to arouse the body parts you already have, gay sex toys from reputable manufacturers allow you to experience what you desire, when you desire it. Many of today’s luxury sex toys are even customizable, meaning you can tailor each session to the unique specifications of your perverted mind without having to buy dozens of products.

  • Gay Sex Toys Can Improve Your Love Life 

With all those advantages combined, gay sex toys have the power to swiftly improve the quality of your sex life just by being in the bedroom. Providing safe and satisfying inspiration for curiosities and well-made tools for those uncontrollable urges, sex toys for gays are in a league of their own in so many ways. By having everything you need right at your lubed up fingertips, it’s impossible to experience anything but total bliss.

The sex toy collection you currently have may very well be an amazing assortment of pleasure products that always get you from Point A to Point B, but you didn’t get this far by playing it safe. Doing what you’ve always done will only get you what you’ve always got, and even if you’ve always got off with the toys you own, there’s no telling how much better your orgasms will be with a gay-specific sex toy until you try one. And I’m not trying to sell you anything here; I’m just giving credit where credit’s due. It’s about time society and the sex toy industry caught up with the times and started taking the queens more seriously.

The Top 10 Ways to Tell If That Gay Sex Toy Is Worth It or Not

Because there are so many different kinds of gay sex toys to choose from, the most important step towards finding the perfect one is to take inventory on yourself and/or your lover before buying anything. Clever marketers will do everything in their power to get your money, and if you’re not smart they’ll succeed. Make them earn a living just like you do by holding them to a high standard. Meanwhile, set those standards up against the following 10 factors:

  • Your Skin Type 

If a gay sex toy is made out of low-quality materials or materials that could cause irritation or an allergic reaction, run. Today’s most reputable toy manufacturers already know what works and what doesn’t. Most of them will automatically use skin-safe materials such as silicone, thermoplastic elastomer (TPE), polyvinyl chloride (PVC), stainless-steel, glass, or precious metals. Rarely will you find anything with latex anymore, although even some of the higher-end products sometimes contain a little bit of it. Still, never opt for a sex toy that has any phthalates or parabens, as both of those ingredients have been linked to serious health problems.

TIP: If needed, use a compatible condom to avoid contact with allergy triggers and/or irritants.

  • Your Body Type

Keep in mind that not all sex toys are made from all body types. And while something might be marketed nicely or look appealing to you and/or your partner, a closer examination of your height and weight might render a different conclusion. This is an especially important consideration for people who are new to using gay sex toys (or sex toys in general). Start small and work your way up to bigger ad better things. Remember, you’ve got to crawl before you walk.

TIP: Use plenty of personal lubricant to experiment with larger sex toys safely and painlessly. 

  • Your Role(s)

You and your partner need to define roles as they pertain to your relationship. Are they flexible or rigid? Who will be in charge of keeping, cleaning and maintaining your new collection? Who will be the one using it the most or will you be sharing the experience equally? However things play out in your bedroom, be sure the gay sex toy you choose fits the bill. There is no right or wrong answer here, so don’t let any manufacturer or marketer tell you otherwise. Find a device that suits the roles you both play no matter what those are or how often they change.

TIP: Play around with role reversal to open up a whole new world of BDSM toys. 

  • Your Intentions 

Based on what you and your partner plan to do with this new gay sex toy you’re considering, the shape, size, ergonomics and features will vary. For instance, when searching for a good anal pleasure device you most likely want something curved to stimulate the p-spot. However, when looking for a toy to stimulate the clitoris, a prostate massager probably won’t do the trick. And while those glaring differences are obvious, some of the subtler variations are easy to miss. Examine each option closely and make sure it’s going to do what you need it to do.

TIP: Have an open and honest conversation with your partner to determine which kind of sex toy you’d both enjoy the most. 

  • Your Love Life 

The boundaries and schedules of your love life play a big role in the kind of gay sex toy that will work for you. Products that have short battery lives, devices that require a lot of special attention, and items that are extremely complicated to use might not be for all people or all lifestyles. Like your mother always said, you’re very special. It’s just that maybe she didn’t mean for you to apply that fact to your sex toy shopping checklist. Either way, she was right and you need to use it to find the gay sex toy that makes you feel like the unique snowflake you are.

TIP: Consider whether you have enough space to store your items or enough privacy to use them when and how you want to. 

  • Your Equipment 

Remember that today’s sex toy industry is full of amazing things, and most of those things are extremely high-tech gadgets that require special equipment. Luxury-grade, high-tech sex toys often need internet connections, mobile data plans, website memberships, spare batteries and/or other types of complementary gear to work properly. However, even some of the rudimentary options require things like harnesses, shower mounts, and specialized cleaning solutions to make them worth your while. Make sure you have everything needed to start using your gay sex toys right away, because good partners shouldn’t have to wait on you to get your shit together.

TIP: Double check the limitations and quality of your equipment to ensure it’s in top working order before you start using it. 

  • Your Knowledge 

Those who think outside the box or have runaway sexual fantasies often fall victim to clever advertising and end up buying something that they have no idea how to use. And while many of today’s best gay sex toys come with an instruction manual, who’s to say it’s easy enough to follow? On top of that, you better make sure you know how to use that equipment I mentioned above. There will be nobody there to coach you through it, and mistakes can lead to irreparable toy damage, injuries and even breakups.

TIP: If you want to experiment but are afraid to waste your money on a toy that’s too complex, study how each product works before you buy it. 

  • Your Comfort Level 

Experimenting or not, some gay sex toys can take a person way out of their comfort zone if they’re not introduced and/or used correctly. Knowing you and your partner’s comfort level is important because it can help you narrow down the search even more. Who needs a massive dildo when your lover isn’t prepared for stretching of that magnitude? And who wants a tiny sex toy when only girth and length can get you off? Whether looking for something to insert, something to restrain or something for pain, it’s crucial to consider everyone’s comfort level beforehand.

TIP: Work your way up to more substantial sex toys by starting out with small, simple options that provide similar sensations. 

  • Your Lube 

Did you know that it’s almost impossible to enjoy most gay sex toys without applying a little lube to the product or yourself/your partner first? Furthermore, lube types aren’t always compatible with all toy materials. For example, silicone sex toys can’t be used with anything but water-based lube (which is a good thing since water-based lubes are hypoallergenic). However, metal and glass toys can be used with oil-based and/or silicone-based lubes (which is good news for people who prefer those lube types for anal sex). Either way, you have to make sure everyone gets along or things can get ugly in a hurry.

TIP: Since it’s pretty cheap, keep several types of personal lubricant on hand to make sure you’re always prepared. 

  • Your Budget 

Speaking of cheap, don’t settle on a toy just because it helps you save some money. It’s not always true that you get what you pay for, but today’s gay sex toy industry has done a good job of making things fair and competitive. As such, keep your mind and wallets open because you’re bound to be surprised at some point. Some of the best stuff comes in a kit, so although you pay a little more than you would for just the device itself, you end up saving some cash on the backend because you bought in bulk. Look for special discounts and coupon codes wherever you can.

TIP: Don’t forget to factor in things like toy cleaner, batteries, lube and accessories. 

Bonus points for the gay sex toy manufacturers who offer warranties on their products, by the way. Yes, you can purchase some of these amazing things and then get 100-200% of your money back if you’re not completely satisfied. Experimenting with sex toys for gays is now a relatively risk-free venture that makes everybody happy. Oh, what a time to be alive.

The End Game

Listen, I know that selecting the right sex toy is already harder than you are, but add in the fact that you’re looking for something made specifically for gay sex and things get even more difficult. It’s never easy being sleazy, but at least now it’s a little more enjoyable to hunt for your next conquest. There may be several different kinds of gay sex toys to choose from, but each one and each category has its own unique pros and cons that, when examined properly, can help you find what you’re looking for. If that happens to be an extra-large dildo or a vibrating butt plug then so be it. This journey of discovery is not for the faint of heart. Heavy is the head that wears the crown, but cranky is the queen who wears a frown.