Yesterday, I hung out with a group of good friends, including a couple that has been together for a little over a year.

We had been drinking all day and decided to play Apples to Apples, which is a card game that I really enjoy. The concept of the game is a little confusing, though once you start playing, it becomes simple. Basically, as you play, you each get a turn to decide who wins the round. The key is that you pick a winner based on the cards they give you, and you don’t know which card belongs to which person.

Anyway, the couple was part of the group playing, and you could tell that she was grumpypants. She wasn’t feeling well and it had been a long day. It’s TOTALLY uncharacteristic of her to be snarky or negative at all, but she was definitely in a bad mood. To her credit, she was trying to hide it so as to not ruin the night for everyone else.

He picked up on her grumpiness, as did I (I didn’t have quite as much to drink as some of the others who were hanging out with us). He could have escalated it or ignored it…but he didn’t.

Instead, though he hid it pretty well, when it was his turn to pick a winner for the round, he picked her. In fact, the next five times it was his turn, he picked her for three or four times, feigning that he truly didn’t know which card was hers.

It wasn’t about “letting her win.” We were all just having fun, not being super competitive. It was his non-verbal way to say to her, “I can tell you’re in a crummy mood. I’m really sorry, and this is all I know how to do right now to make you feel better. I love you.”

I think that’s what true love is – small gestures that just shows the other person you care. Saying “I love you” to someone is nice and definitely necessary to keep a relationship going, but it’s the gestures that show love that are needed too. Even more importantly, I think the real test is being able to show love even when the other person is being hard to love. When I find someone who loves me like that, even when I’m sick or annoying or argumentative, that’s when I know I’ve found the guy who is right for me.

I just read a post on popular tech blog Gizmodo that has me enraged. Seriously, I’m a pretty laid back girl and also really busy, so you know that I’m mad when I feel so passionate about a topic that I immediately drop everything I’m doing to write about it on Between My Sheets.

Without further commentary, I invite you to go read the post in question, which is located here. I’m not going to summarize it because there is just nothing I can say that will compare to the vile this blogger is spewing forth. Come back when you’re done. I’ll wait.

Back? Yeah, let’s talk about that post. I bet you have as much to say about it as I do. Please comment and let me know what you think.

First, before I even get into the absolute filth this chick is writing about her date, I want to address this:

“Earlier this month, I came home drunk and made an OKCupid profile. What the hell, I thought. I’m busy, I’m single, and everybody’s doing it. Sure, I’d heard some stories, but what was the worst that could happen?”

Dude, no you didn’t. That’s what everyone say because they’re slightly embarrassed to say that they’re giving online dating a try. “Haha, I was drunk! I would never resort to online dating when I’m sober!” Get a grip. Your decision to join OKCupid was the same reason any of us join it – we’re lonely and curious about who could be out there. Stop blaming that omg-super-awesome pink fruit-tini you had with your omg-super-awesome girlfriends while out at da club for your dating decisions.

Now that I have that off my chest, let’s just call a spade a spade. Or, as would be more appropriate, let’s just call a cunt a cunt. Alyssa Bereznak is a cunt.

Let me start by pointing out that she’s a writer for Gizmodo (a tech gadget blog) ranting about how horrible it is that she went out on a date with a nerd. Seriously? Pot? Kettle?

But I’ll by-pass the part where she essentially makes fun of the fact that her date, Jon, is a nerd. He totally is. I don’t even think he would deny that. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, so if you want to laugh at someone who has a passion about something in life, go right ahead. Free speech laws mean that you get to call him a nerd and I get to call you a cunt.

But then I read this:

“I later found out that Jon infiltrated his way into OKCupid dates with at least two other people I sort of know, including one of my co-workers. Mothers, warn your daughters!”

This makes it sound like Jon is sneaky and dishonest. What, because he didn’t list in his OKCupid profile that he has an interest in Magic: The Gathering? Seriously, get a grip. This guy did absolutely nothing wrong, based on your account of the date. Someone who is a football player can date someone who doesn’t love football because he has outside interests. Someone who loves slasher films can date someone who refuses to watch anything other than romantic comedies because has outside interests. Someone who loves geeky card games can date a girl who can “barely play Solitaire” because he has outside interests. You admit within your own post that you had “normal” conversations at the start of the date and online started talking about Magic at all because you mentioned that your brother is a gamer. In fact, you went out with him a second time. What is wrong with you? If playing Magic is honestly a deal-breaker for you, don’t go out with the guy again in order to gain fodder for a mean-spirited blog post you’re going to write.

“Maybe I’m shallow for not being able to see past Jon’s world title. I’ll own that. But there’s a larger point here: that judging people on shallow stuff is human nature…”

No, judging people on shallow stuff is your nature, Alyssa. Don’t try to lump the rest of us into your fucked up way of thinking.

Here’s the thing: When it comes to dating, we all have non-negotiable. I won’t date a guy old enough to be my father, even if he is otherwise perfect for me. I have a friend who won’t date a guy who is shorter than she is. You won’t date a guy who is into Magic. There’s nothing wrong with that, inherently. But that’s not judging other people. That’s judging yourself, admitting what you need in a relationship. The judgmental part is when you get online and rant about the other person like there’s something wrong with them. On a blog whose main audience is made up of nerds.

Seriously, I have no idea why the powers that be at Gizmodo would ever allow you to publish a post that attacks someone who is just like their target reader. That’s an argument for another day, though.

Next time, try being a fucking decent human being. For example, simply say, “Thank you for the dates, but I’m looking for someone who shares more of the same interests I do.” Hell, even write a blog post about the importance of finding out if you share interests before you go on a date.

That wasn’t what you wrote, even if you’re trying really hard to make it seem that way. Why didn’t you write that? Because the lack of common interests wasn’t the problem, was it? Because you don’t even know if you share interests. You found out about one of his interests and freaked out like he told you he likes to eat babies in his free time. You decided that you were better than him. Your post is about the important of finding out whether or not you’re better than the other person before you go on a date.

The answer is no, you are not. You think you are, but it is Jon who dodged the bullet here, not you. I don’t know Jon. I don’t even play Magic. But what I know is this: he took you out (twice!), even though he knew you didn’t play Magic because he knows there are more important things in life than a geeky card game. He was willing to get to know what makes you tick beyond what he could find with a silly Google search.

It wasn’t a match. No big deal. He moved on. You turned into a virtual bully. And someone has to stand up to you and say, “No, that’s not right.” I’m happy to be that person. Just because you’re hiding behind a computer screen doesn’t mean it is okay to be a jerk. Free speech might mean that you can voice your opinion online no matter how horrible it is, but it doesn’t mean that I can’t stand up and say that I wish bloggers online daters girls like you didn’t exist. Because I wish people like you didn’t exist. You give the rest of us a bad name.

Something cute I came across in my online travels:

The words are too small/blurry to read, so I’m not sure exactly why she’s getting spanked, but it has something to do with not serving him the best coffee, I believe. Whatever it is, the ad seems to imply that it would be a bad thing if the husbands finds out. I have to admit, I might let him find out on purpose if the picture is the result!

Is the ad sexist? Maybe. But some of us girls would love nothing more than a traditional 1950s household.

(I have no idea how to credit this since it is an ad…so if you own this picture, please let me know and I’m happy to give you credit!)

I’ve used dating sites on and off for a few years. Okay, several years. I think I create my first profile in…2004? 2005 maybe? When I have a boyfriend, I obviously take my profiles down, so I haven’t had a membership for 7 years straight, but I’m not new to using dating sites to find potential relationships. I’ve had some success, some failure.

My sites of choice are OKCupid (becuase it’s free but not overrun with FWB requests like some other free sites) and CollarMe (because it’s kinky in addition to being free). I try to answer every email, but that just doesn’t happen. I suspect a lot of people feel the same way – great intentions of answering all emails, even if it is to say no thanks, but find themselves avoiding answering a lot of the emails they get. So here are some tips for those of you sending emails: this is why I (and other other girls) might not answer you:

• All you say is “What’s up?”

Seriously, I don’t know what to say in return. “Nothing.” ? That’s a great conversation. Emails are not IMs. Say something more than just hello if you want to hear back from me. I don’t have time to tell 100 guys a day that nothing is up.

• Your profile is empty.

I don’t want to waste my time emailing someone who isn’t right for me. Please post at least one picture and a little information about yourself before you message me. If you don’t, make sure your email is long and detailed so I know whether or not I’m interestsed.

• Your profile sounds jaded, bitter, or antagonistic.

I get it. You’ve been hurt in the past. You’re not interested in bitches. You don’t care what other people think about you. But dude? It’s not cool to pontificate about how you “don’t give a fuck.” You just sound like an ass and it doesn’t tell me anything about you. It certainly doesn’t make you unique in some way. It just makes me think that you don’t have tact in social settings.

• You haven’t read my profile.

I’m not a hard ass on this. If you ask me what I do for a living even though it is clearly stated in my profile, I’m not going to flip out. Like me, you probably read a lot of profiles and just forgot as you were emailing me. But at least try to reference something in my profile to show that you’ve read it. I didn’t write it for my benefit.

• You try to change my mind.

There are certain things that are non-negotiable for me. For example, I’m not interested in dating someone who is already in a relationship (even an open relationship). I appreciate your life decisions, but if your email is trying to get me to bend my own rules because you’re so awesome, I’m probably going to ignore it. I don’t have many “non-negotiable” things on my wish list. Please respect the few that are important to me.

• You don’t ask any questions or say anything interesting.

It’s fine to talk about yourself – I want to know about you. But I get really boring emails all the time that are basically just “this is what I’m looking for and I think you’re it.” Um…okay? Thanks? I don’t know what to say to that. The easiest way to get me to reply is to ask a few questions.

• You’re too short for me.
  

It pains me to say it, but yes, sometimes I don’t reply to someone because they’re just too short for me. I’m a tall girl. If you’re 5’2″ it would be weird to date you, but I feel odd sending an email that says that. You don’t have to be taller than me, but it has to at least not be super weird. There are lots of cool short girls to email – try one of them!

• You’re rude.

This one is for the CM crowd. Just because I’m a sub doesn’t mean that you you call me a bitch, make demands, or otherwise be rude to me. I’m a sub, but I’m not your sub. And with that attitude, I never will be.

Do you do any online dating? What’s your best tip for people who email you?

I’d like to preface this post by saying that I know a lot of people here may not degree. Feel free to leave a comment – I post them all, as long as they’re respectful, even if you don’t agree with me!

Today, I read an article on CNN about now Nepal’s census this year would be recognizing a third gender. The LGBT community is celebrating on the streets of course, but I have to wonder this: Why?

Perhaps I have a limited view on the matter, since I’m not in the LGBT category, but as a sub, I certainly understand discrimination, especially as it pertains to sexuality. Let me explain to you how I see things, though.

I could be wrong, but every census-like form I’ve ever filled out asked for sex, not gender. To me, sex is what is between your legs, what your DNA says, apart from how you feel in the inside. If you’re pre-op, perhaps there’s an argument for marking female when you still have a penis or male when you still have a vagina, but again, to me, sex is all about whether you pee sitting down or standing up. In fact, that’s one of the main arguments for filling out the form correctly – they sometimes help determine things like how many public bathrooms to install. You are born physically male or physically female. That’s not discrimination. That’s fact.*

Gender, in my opinion, is how you feel on the inside. Some of us are lucky enough to lead lives where we feel like the inside matches the outside. I say “lucky” not because there’s something wrong with you if you don’t, but only because it must be incredibly hard to deal with your feelings, especially as a child, if your inside and outside doesn’t match given today’s culture around the world, not just in Nepal. I’ve seen friends struggle with it, and I don’t wish that on anyone.

When it comes to sexuality, I think you can be attracted to both sex and gender, and the two might not match up. I personally am attracted to someone who is physically male. What can I say, I like a nice cock. I’m also attracted to someone who’s stereotypically male in terms of inward feelings – I like dating guys who are rugged, dominant, etc. I’ve met females who have these characteristics, and while that does slightly attract me, the no penis thing is a deal breaker. Likewise, I’ve met males who have the penis, but are submissive, and while I might be attracted physically, I have no connection mentally. For me, it takes both things. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being attracted to a specific sex or a specific gender. You might like submissive, straight men or butch lesbians or people with blue eyes or people with nice feet or whatever. Attraction is attraction – you can’t change your gut (or rather, below-the-belt) reaction to other people.

Anyway, this brings me back to my original question – why? What is the need for a third gender category? Because really, I don’t feel like the government (or anyone controlling a census) needs to know how you feel on the inside. Your sex, the actual dangly or not-so-dangly parts between your legs…that might make sense to know so they can provide the right services (like public bathrooms or OBGYN services) in the right amounts in every community, but beyond that, why is the relevant? Be who you want to be. Some kind of third gender just seems like a category made to appease people who are vocal for gay rights, even though it doesn’t actually do anything for gay rights.

Instead of some kind of silly third gender, I’d like to see the whole gender/sex thing gone altogether. If they need to collect data to ensure they provide the right services, they can flat-out ask that (for example, “Do you use OBGYN services in your community?”). Otherwise, it shouldn’t matter. We’re just creating more difficult-to-understand labels for ourselves.

So that’s my opinion. I don’t get it, I don’t like it, and I don’t apologize for that. I think there are a lot of cool things going on right now in the LGBT community for gay rights. This is not one of them.

*Yes, a very small percentage are not born male or female (physically), but this is a rare medical condition that occurs when you have a genetic problem. If anything, I could support that as a third gender before the category as it stands now.

Related Articles:

• If You’re not a Man and not a Woman, Perhaps you are Nepalese (queerty.com)
• “Parents keep child’s gender under wraps (methodius.blogspot.com)
• The straightjacket of gender (aworldoflies.wordpress.com)

Apparently, if you write erotica, you’re incapable of also being a teacher?

A series of racy romance novels by an author named Judy Mays are a little too racy for some parents in our area, especially now that they have discovered the woman known as Judy Mays is teaching their children. (read more)

In case you didn’t click through to read the rest of the story, here’s the gist: Judy is a high school teacher who writes “erotic romance novels” in her free time. She didn’t bring them to school, talk about them at school, or even make it public knowledge at all. She wrote under a pen name and was only “caught” because her author website has a P.O. box in her hometown as a way of contacting her and she was on a video on YouTube talking about her books.

If you want to get really riled up, check out what some of the parents are saying in this video.

Yeah, they accused her of being a pedophile in a round-about way. What?!?!

They are teaching their children that sexuality is shameful, and that, to me, is scary. It’s that kind of parent that ends up with pregnant teens because they are never taught anything about using condoms and exploring sexuality safely – they are taught that abstinence is the only answer (and we all know how well that works).

I rarely write about news-related topics here, but this really makes me sick to my stomach. From all the comments I’ve seen from former students on the various news pieces, she is a damn fine teacher. If she’s not allowed to continue teaching, I hope she sues the pants off the school board and everyone involved.

My blood is seriously boiling right now.

The other day, I wrote a post called Breast Worship about how MM wants a nice rack more than he wants a nice behind. I noted that in my experiences, most people seem to appreciate asses more than tits, so he was in the minority. But maybe I’m wrong? It got me wondering, what’s better – tits or ass? Obviously, the perfect girl would be attractive (in your eyes, whatever that means) in both areas – but if you had to pick just one, gun to your head, which would it be?

Vote by leaving a comment!

(Oh, and you don’t have to be a straight male to comment. As long at you appreciate the female body, your vote counts!)

I have a confession. I love finger fucking. Love. We’re talking love it to the point where I’d rather be finger fucked than have sex a god 50% of the time. Because you know what? Even if the guy has no idea what he’s doing, it still feels amazing. I’ve never, not once, had a bad experience with someone fingering me.

I remember the first time I fingered myself as a teen. I remember the first time a guy fingered me. I remember some awesome fingering experiences.

I love the D/s element of it too. I love that a guy is prodding me, exploring me. I love it especially when I’m cuffed or tied to the bed and the guy I’m with can do with me what he wants. It’s humiliating and hot at the same time. I love it.

Maybe it’s because I’ve never been with a guy who liked eating pussy. So I don’ t have much experience with that. But really…it’s just not my thing. And I have been with guys who are good at it, even though I have limited experience with it. I would just much rather be fingered. Much rather.

I want to here from you all – which would you rather: Finger fucking or oral? (or, if you’re a guy, hand job or oral – though I guess that’s not really the same thing!) Leave a comment!

As you may have noticed, I removed the #1 spot on the 2010 list. I didn’t move everyone up a spot, because I feel like that would be unfair and it wasn’t my original intention for everyone to be a rank higher. So, that means there’s no #1 for 2010.

But let’s talk about why.

People have been throwing accusations around for a fairly long time that “Alexa” at Real Princess Diaries was actually not a sex worker and was lying about her/his identity. And you know what? I still enjoyed the site. So did a lot of other people. I don’t lie about who I am here, but my identity as “Rori” isn’t my whole identity, that’s for sure. I keep a lot private and yes, I’ve fictionalized some things about my sex life or relationships or past. I think most sex bloggers do.

So when people started coming to me with concerns that Alexa didn’t deserve the number one spot, I brushed it off. I hadn’t heard about this drama in the past. Hey, I’m not a detective and when a blog gets nominated for this list, if it isn’t in the last 10 posts or so, there’s a good chance that I won’t know about any accusations, drama, etc. going on associated with the blogger. Frankly, this isn’t some kind of professional list. I’m just a sex blogger who likes other sex bloggers, so I make an annual list of good ones that y’all should check out. In case you haven’t noticed, when there’s drama happening in this blogging niche, I’m very rarely around. I tend to stay out of things.

Anyway, back to the issue at hand…

I don’t care if you make up a fictional personality for your online site. Seriously, flat out lie to me if that makes you happy. I don’t really care. It’s just erotica and sex toy reviews and the like.

But I do care when there are very, very real accusations against you about underage interactions. This was something that NO ONE complaining about Alexa as #1 ever brought up to me (Unless it was in the huge list of links somewhere, written in a story at some point. I gave up on reading all the links people sent me.). Every referred to her/him as a fraud, content thief, etc…but sex sites involving children are a completely different story. That’s something that makes me sick to my stomach. Please note: if you did mention this in your email to me at some point yesterday, I’m sorry that I missed it. I recieved over 100 emails regarding not just Alexa but the list in general, so it’s entirely possible that I missed this information in someone’s email. For that I’m sorry.

And I’m a big believer of “innocent until proven guilty” – but it seems as though Alexa has taken Real Princess Diaries offline, with a statement that it will not be back…so that makes my job really easily. I don’t need to get to the bottom of this. You can’t be on my top sex bloggers list if you don’t have a sex blog.

Again, I know a lot of you are upset that “Alexa” isn’t a real person, but for me, that was never the issue. My list was about good writing, sites I enjoyed visiting, blogs I found entertaining. Me removing her as #1 is about something much deeper, something that was finally brought to my attention in combination with her removing her site, which is to me a statement that she doesn’t want to defend herself or tell her side of the story.

Also, I still fully stand behind what I posted yesterday as a response to the list fall out. 1) I don’t like to take sides when two people are giving different versions of the same story, especially when I don’t know either person. 2) I’m not going to move someone higher on the list because they update more often. 3) I don’t care if you’re more popular, this isn’t a popularity contest. 4) I respect your right to your own opinion. Please respect mine. Make your own list of top bloggers if you don’t agree with me – that only makes the community stronger!

But if you’ve reposted this list on your own site, please remove the #1 spot and link to this post instead. After a lot of soul-searching, I feel like it’s the right thing to do.

Feel free to discuss this in the comments below, but as always, please be respectful. Disagreeing is always ok. Name-calling is not.

Update: Please read this blog post before you comment on this list or email me.

Can you believe it’s that time again? I’ve been working hard on this list for several months now, and so have your 2010 judges (make sure to say thank you to them here).

First, some housekeeping:

• This year, we had over 200 nominations through comments, email, and Twitter! Everyone who was nominated should be proud!
• A lower score than you had last year doesn’t mean that you’re a worse blogger than last year. It’s all relative compared to the other bloggers nominated.
• This year, a blog was counted as a single number, regardless of the number of writers. If you have multiple blogs, you were listed with the highest-rating blog.
• The banner ads along the side are for sponsors, affiliates, and sex-pos charities – check them out! (NOTE: Banner ads do not necessarily mean they support this list)
• Yes, there are buttons available, created by by fabulous Lilly of This Could Be Dangerous… Grab them at the bottom of this page.
• For some FAQ, check out the bottom of the post!

PLEASE NOTE: No one listed here should be considered a supporter of Between My Sheets or this list. This is simply a list of sex bloggers I enjoy and want to promote.

And now, your 2010 Top 100 Sex Bloggers!

1. (Please see this post)
2. TBK from The Beautiful Kind
3. Iona and James from SapioSlut
4. Quizzical Pussy from Quizzical Pussy
5. Sadie from Sexie Sadie’s Stories of Seduction
6. Vixen from Secrets of a Blue-Eyed Vixen
7. Adrian Colesberry from Adrian’s Blog
8. EA from Easily Aroused
9. Guy New York from Quickies in New York
10. Joan from Better Than I Ever Expected: Sex and Aging
11. 25 Things from 25 Things About My Sexuality
12. AAG from AAG Blog
13. Bad, Bad Girl from BBG Blog
14. Holden from Packing Vocals
15. The blogging team at Sex is Fun
16. Elle from Kink Unleashed
17. Rachel from Rabbit Write
18. Clarisse Thorn from Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded Feminism
19. littlegirlyone from littlegirlyland
20. Remittance Girl from Remittance Girl
21. Mistress Arabella from Bombshells & Rockstars
22. Axe from Unspeakable Axe
23. Coke Talk from Dear Coke Talk
24. Jack from Writing Dirty
25. Kayar Silkenvoice from Silken on Sex
26. The blogging team at Gentle Nibbles
27. Sinclair Sexsmith from Sugarbutch Chronicles

28. Lilly from This Could Be Dangerous…
29. Kit from Blogging Dangerously
30. Mistress Lilyana from Mistress Lilyana
31. TitsMcScandal from The Blogging Slave
32. suggestivetongue from suggestivetongue
33. Library Vixen from Library Vixen
34. Oatmeal Girl from Submission & Metaphor
35. Riff Dog from Ashley and Me
36. Rockin’ with a Cock In from Light Switch
37. Dick and Jane from Dick-n-Jane
38. Shasta from Stiletto Diaries
39. Athol Kay from Married Man Sex Life
40. Padme and Anakin from Journey to the Darkside
41. PrettyPowerTools from Pretty Power Tools
42. Dark Gracie from Gracie’s Playground
43. Mollena from The Perverted Negress
44. The blogging team at Sex in the Public Square
45. The blogging team at Pop My Cherry Review
46. Emma and Maymay from Kink on Tap
47. Dave from Glimpses of Dave
48. Jake from Facts and Friction
49. Sylvanus and Mina from At Longing’s End
50. Lucy from Sexy Blogtime
51. Ms. Naughty from Ms. Naughty Porn for Women Blog
52. Wendy Blackheart from Heart Full of Black
53. Cin from Seeing My Own Reflection
54. Holly from The Pervocracy
55. Lady Pandorah from Lady Pandorah’s Sanctuary
56. Olga Wolstenholme at Cuntlove
57. Jiz Lee from Jiz Lee
58. Aubrey from Vagina Drum
59. Black Pearl from The Filthy Ramblings of a Dirty Girl on Lock
60. Dallas from Naughty Americans
61. Jerry Jones from Little Submissions
62. Sir Zoomer from Vanilla-Xtract
63. Chantelle from Chantelle Austin International
64. Gloria from Gloria’s Oversexed Mind
65. Insatiable Desire from Insatiable Desire
66. Spring Flower from A Girl’s Gotta Have Options
67. Epiphora from Hey Epiphora
68. Wilhemina from Heartbreak Nymphomania
69. Erin from Let’s Eat Cake
70. Autumn from The First Day of Autumn
71. Kyle from Butchtastic
72. Cheeky Minx from Love Hate Sex Cake
73. Diva from Debauched Domestic Diva
74. Scarlet Lotus St. Syr from Purveyor of Pleasure and Wanton Lotus
75. Janie from A Hundred Ways to be Perverse in the Library
76. The Secret Slut from The Secretive Slut
77. Curvaceous Dee from Curvaceous Dee
78. Jefferson from One Life, Take Two
79. Kris from Phone Courtesan and Experience Kris
80. Lila from ¡Qué sinvergüenza!
81. Essin’ Em from Essin’ Em
82. Shon Richards from Erotiterrorist
83. Violet Blue from Tiny Nibbles
84. Evey from Voyeur on Display
85. Miss Mia from Things You Can’t Ask Mom
86. Coy Pink from No Need to be Coy
87. Mistress Matisse from Mistress Matisse’s Journal
88. Audacia Ray from Waking Vixen
89. That Toy Chick from Desk Full of Dildos
90. Britni from Oh My God, That Britni’s Shameless
91. SSS and ♀ from Sweat Shop Sissy
92. Ferns from Domme Chronicles
93. Jerome Nichols from Let’s Talk About Sex
94. Dreamwalker from Dreamwalker Sadistic Poet
95. Dr. Petra from Dr. Petra Boynton’s Blog
96. Viemoira from Cavern of the Beast
97. Shirley from Reptillian Prostitute
98. Carrie Ann from A View from the Floor
99. Sophia St. James from Sophia St. James XXX
100. YOU! As always that last person on the list is you. Please, please, please leave a comment below promoting your own blog (or the blog of someone you love). Links are welcome, as long as they lead us to a sex-related blog, not a retail website or porn aggregation site.

If you’re a blogger on this list and I’ve made a mistake (the link is wrong, you want your name to be changed, I missed an author, etc), please email me right away and I’ll change it!
Some FAQ about the 2010 list:

• Why was I/my favorite blogger included?

The most common reasons are that they weren’t nominated, their blog was password protected, or they have been blogging for less than six months. You can read more at this page.

• How were these bloggers selected?

Myself and a number of other bloggers rated them on a scale from 1 to 10 based on site design, frequency of posting, quality of posts, readership interaction, and more.  Our ratings were averaged and I acted as the tiebreaker.

• Can I repost this list on my website?

YES YES YES YES YES. This list is most beneficial if it is reposted across the web. I only ask that you credit me with a link to this site or this post, rather than trying to pass it off as your own. If you do your own list, though, let me know – I’ll support it here!

Note: In the spirit of things, I prefer you post the list in its entirety. Whether or not you post the banners is up to you, but please DO NOT replace them with your own banner ads within the list post.

• How can I say thank you for this list?

First, visit the websites of all of the judges. They’re awesome.

Second, leave a comment here, on this post, promoting your site or a site you love that wasn’t included on the list.

Third, come back next year to nominate blogs and participate as a judge.

Fourth, consider clicking on my link before making a purchase on Amazon. I’ll get the affiliate credit for anything you buy, and it won’t cost you any more than if you had gone there by simply typing “amazon.com” into your address bar.

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