This year the 12 Naughty Days of Christmas is completely BDSM-themed. It’s an advent calendar for doms and subs! Don’t worry; there are activities for both couples and those who are single, so no matter what your relationship status, you can have a little sexy fun this holiday season.
One of the most exciting BDSM-related activities in my opinion is something I’m going to call “The Countdown.” You’ll see The Countdown manifest itself in a number of ways, but the main idea is that you’re making your sub wait for something he or she wants. It can be orgasm control, release from pain, and more.
It’s about pushing limits and learning restraint.
I’m going to list off a bunch of Countdown activities you can try, and many of them can be modified to work whether you’re a couple or you’re a single sub/dom. Ready to work on your patience?
The Oral Sex Countdown: Most subs loves pleasuring their dom. When your sub is going down on you, pull him/her back (by the hair is a sex way to do that) and make your sub beg. They have to convince you as you count down that they deserve to pleasure you with their tongue.
The Reverse Oral Sex Countdown: A reverse of the above countdown is to (consensually) force your sub to perform oral. If you’re a male dom, push your sub’s face on your cock, forcing him or her to deepthroat until you count down to zero. If you’re female, facesit.
The Spanking Countdown: Come up with a number of spanks your sub deserves and make him or her countdown as you administer them. (I love spanking, and counting makes it even better.)
The Orgasm Countdown: As you’re fucking and your sub gets close to orgasm, make him or her hold off until you count down to zero. If you can control your own orgasm to time it perfectly, you can cum together, which feels awesome.
The Quick Orgasm Countdown: This is a fun countdown if your sub is pestering you for sex and you’re busy or not in the mood or if you only have a few minutes to play. Start counting down slowly and tell your sub to start masturbating. They can orgasm – but only if they do before you get to zero!
Share some of your countdown ideas by leaving a comment below. And make sure to stop back later this week for the final day of our Naughty Days countdown – my pick for Top Sex Toy of 2011!
If you want to play more, check out the rest of the 12 Naughty Days of Christmas posts!
Rori is the founder of Between My Sheets. She works full time as a writer, reviewer, and online educator and can be reached at rori-at-betweenmysheets.com