Personally, I did change a lot since I’ve been with G, my girlfriend. I was never the dominating type, except occasionally and if it was on request of the partner of the moment. I used to be more of a very sweet, tender guy, to the point that I was driving G. nuts at the beginning of our relationship: I take things so slowly in bed and spent so much time teasing her that she would literally always end up jumping on me.

Eventually I changed and I am definitely more active, and sometimes dominating. I still don’t really think it’s me, and it bugs me a little. But it’s not always like that. And she’s changing as well, as she used to want it very rough and now sort of complains when it is.

Things change.
Both your personality and your fantasms do (I don’t know if I am more dominative now than I used to be because she had me watch more porn, or if I enjoy the rougher porn more now because that reflects more how I am in bed. I’d say it’s probably more of a hidden side of my personality that surfaces).