2 Responses to “BDSM and Love”

  1. nilla says:

    sorry I’ve been away… :) sick kiddos…no time for blog reading, now life is normal (whatever that is!)

    This was a great piece. I’ve found with my Master that our communication “rules” of being honest and open have helped to deepen our relationship. If he hurts my feelings, I have to be honest and say so, rather than just sucking it up… Vanilla life is not that cut and dried.

    (at least mine isn’t)

    nilla

  2. Dan says:

    I’m sort of a read 100 books sex geek but new this last year to power exchange, dark eros, BDSM play. Was thinking this morning of the two books I bought my wife on talking dirty; trying to encourage her. I just realized wile setting some new hardware tie downs in the study for play that I am the one who was looking for permission to talk dirty, call her rather nasty names in scene play.

    I’ve been in the past Mr. Nice Guy, borderline metrosexual, strong feminine side male way too long. Made corrections elsewhere but was not being the badass in the bedroom I needed to be to be a better lover. Reading now What Women Want by Daniel Bergner. Wow, we’ve been sold a crock about women just wanting to cuddle more than bonk.

    So, give/receive? I’ve brought out the leather and the black and the books on power exchange and scene play. Our relationship is our spiritual practice basically and we are sure to play the fiddle a couple times a week. And all this to keep a traditional marriage hot; an important responsibility for both of us as we enter our 7th year–the year of the seven year itch!

    I’m learning how to get the nasty sex I need using scene play, blindfolds et al. I’d never call her things outside of BDSM play that I call her then; or spank her for that matter. I’m a better giver AND receiver now that I’m more honest about easing toward Mr. biker/kinkster guy.

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