Every year, I do an annual “top sex blogs” post, where I give you 100 of the best sex bloggers out there. There’s been some controversy in the past over which bloggers are picked and which bloggers do not, and at the end of the day, it is just one panel’s opinion. I wanted to create a list of the Best Erotica of 2010, but with a different format. I’m letting you all tell me – what is you hottest post from the past year?

Here’s how it works – Enter the title of your post your and a 1 or 2 word description in parenthesis (again, if you want) in the box below that says “link title.” So the format should look like this: Awesome Fucking Story (BDSM) Think of the description as a quick tag – some tags you could consider include: anal, gay, oral, public, exhibition, threesome…you get the idea.

In the email box you enter your email, obviously (don’t worry, it’s like with comments, I don’t display it or use it for anything unless there’s some kind of problem). In the URL box, enter the URL that goes DIRECTLY to the post you want to feature, NOT the homepage of your blog.

There are just a few rules:

1. You can only link to YOUR site. I know a lot of you are fans – go encourage the blogger you love to submit. (If you see a link to your site on this list and you didn’t submit it, email me.)
2. One link per blogger. If you have multiple authors on your site, each one can submit a link to his/her best piece.
3. It MUST be erotica. No posts that are just toy reviews, opinion pieces, contests, etc.
4. Please pass it on. If you link to one of your posts here, please keep with the spirit of community and pass on this list in some way (blog post, Twitter, sidebar link, Facebook, email, whatever).
5. It has to be from 2010. That’s the name of the list after all.
6. Nothing illegal. Y’all are smart enough to know that, though. ^-^

Lastly, please don’t make this about drama. I understand that not all of you out there like one another. That’s fine. I understand that not all of you out there like me. That’s fine too. This is simply a way for us all to meet new readers and enjoy some hot sex stories. Please be a part of that!

I’m going to start off the list with a link to the best thing I’ve written this year, in my own opinion. Hope you all will do the same!

I hope you all had a great Christmas! My next post in this series will be for my top pick for toy of the year! Woo! For now, though – here are two restraints systems that I highly recommend. Remember, you can see all the 12 Naughty Days of Christmas posts for 2010 at this post if you want to check out past picks!

Pink Plush Cuffs

If you want a beginner restraint system, look into picking up the under the bed restraints that many companies sell – but don’t look past the cuff option. I really loved these, pink plush cuffs (see picture) by Naught Grrl Toyz, because they’re comfortable and pretty while still being extremely restraining. You could use just the wrist cuffs or just the ankel cuffs, or all four. You can also use them in a variety of poses rather than the limiting four-corners restraining you can do with under the bed restraints.

(See my full review here.)

Door Jam Restraints

My other must-have restraint system is the door jam restraints. They work with any door – just slide them over/under and close. It’s surprisingly secure. I’ve used them before and they rock. Such a simple design/concept, but really really hot! For BDSM scenes, I like them even better than under the bed restraints.

(See my full review here.)

What are your favorite restraint systems? Or do you just prefer scarves/rope/tape/etc instead of an actual system? Personally, I like to mix in a little of everything!

I have a confession. I love finger fucking. Love. We’re talking love it to the point where I’d rather be finger fucked than have sex a god 50% of the time. Because you know what? Even if the guy has no idea what he’s doing, it still feels amazing. I’ve never, not once, had a bad experience with someone fingering me.

I remember the first time I fingered myself as a teen. I remember the first time a guy fingered me. I remember some awesome fingering experiences.

I love the D/s element of it too. I love that a guy is prodding me, exploring me. I love it especially when I’m cuffed or tied to the bed and the guy I’m with can do with me what he wants. It’s humiliating and hot at the same time. I love it.

Maybe it’s because I’ve never been with a guy who liked eating pussy. So I don’ t have much experience with that. But really…it’s just not my thing. And I have been with guys who are good at it, even though I have limited experience with it. I would just much rather be fingered. Much rather.

I want to here from you all – which would you rather: Finger fucking or oral? (or, if you’re a guy, hand job or oral – though I guess that’s not really the same thing!) Leave a comment!

I know that gags aren’t for everyone. Hell, gags may not even be for most people. But I love ‘em. Love. So for today’s 12 Naughty Day of Christmas post, I wanted to tell you about three gags that I’ve tried and loved.

1. Rubber Mouth Bit

I got the opportunity to review the rubber mouth bit earlier this year from Twisted Miss. At first, I wasn’t sure it would be my thing, since I like to be gagged, not just err…bit-ed. But I actually do like this bit now that I’ve had a chance to use it more. It’s a really high-quality option, and although it is a little on the expensive side, the leather is totally worth it.

(Read my review here.)
(Buy the Rubber Mouth Bit here.)

2. Pink Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag

My review for this gag (pictured right) is coming soon! I really love the pink suede and the rubber gag is soft while still being fairly firm. I will say this – make sure you wash it before use – otherwise it tastes really nasty! Ball gags are my favorite – they look so pretty, especially on a girl who’s all tied up.

(Buy the Pink Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag here.)

3. Pecker Ball Gag

If you’re looking for something a little different, check out this pecker ball gag instead of a traditional ball gag. It adds an even deeper D/s element to your play. You can even wear it the opposite way around, with the penis part out instead of in for some face-sitting action. I’m a fan of the purple color too!

(Buy the Pecker Ball Gag here.)

We’re getting closer to Christmas – and closer to my pick for sex toy of the year! In the meanwhile, if you have a gag recommendation, leave a comment!

Did you all have an awesome weekend? I’m bring it home with the 12 Naughty Days of Christmas – today, four porn sites.

Porn isn’t exactly the most romantic Christmas gift ever – but many people would love a year-long subscription to a saucy membership site. Short on cash? Check out the last one on the list! It’ll be a Merry Christmas with these sites.

1. Sex and Seduction

It’s my favorite paid porn site, hands down. I’m not someone with porn star aspirations, but I would love a scene with Mark Davis. Yum. He’s not the only hot dom there, though – and I like that afterward, they interview with the girls about their submission in the scene. (Click here for a free preview.)

2. Public Disgrace

There’s something sexy about sex where you could get caught. This site combines that risk with domination/submission, exhibition, and even voyeuristic aspects. Love it. (Click here for a free preview.)

3. Everything Butt

I wanted to include a site for those who like anal. I also wanted to include a site for girls who like girls. Everything Butt kills two birds with one stone. Of course, you are on Between My Sheets, so this site has D/s aspects as well. Would you expect anything less from me? (Click here for a free preview.)

4. Some Free Sites

You don’t have to pay to get awesome porn. Here are some of my favorite free sites – some of them are user-run with large communities and amateur porn while others give you directed porn and even clips from some of the above sites.

• Xtube is my favorite if you love amateur porn, and they have a thriving gay community at this site if you’re looking for male-male movies.
• ExtremeTube has few amateur movies, but that doesn’t matter to me since what they do have there is HOT.
• RedTube is one of the many free porn sites out there; this one is categorized well and has a search bar which isn’t true of every site.

Over to you – what’s your favorite free (or paid) porn site?