Today, I got an interesting email about an article from one of my clients. I write a sex column for a radio show audience (ie, the column is sent to radio show hosts, who then use it for a starting point for discussions on their show). It’s so vanilla that I don’t mind attaching my last name and even business email to the pieces, unlike here, where I try to be a little more discreet about my identity.

The article in question was about threesomes. Now, that’s a risque subject in this client’s book, but I wrote a pretty vanilla version of how to make a threesome happen for you – it was about talking to your spouse, being flexible, being safe, etc. But yes, it promoted threesomes.

He sent me an email that it just couldn’t be published because having a threesome is a fantasy that most men don’t – and shouldn’t – live out. My article was to risque (and I’d like to note that they ASKED me to write about threesomes). Instead, they asked me to change the direction and talk about the dangers of crossing the fantasy/reality line or something equally boring that does not promote having a threesome. And I’ll do it – hey, they pay the bills.

But "a threesome is a fantasy that most men shouldn’t live out"?

How very, very sad.

That is the mind set of this client, and I’m guessing that many people feel this way. And perhaps that is why America is so unhappy.

Let’s face it – if you get married, there’s a good chance that you will also get divorced. Many marriages end with one or both partners no longer feeling that sexual spark. They cheat. They lie. I know, not all divorces are about sex – but if were being honest here, you have to agree the lack of sex (or lack of good sex) is at least a factor in the majority of divorces.

I’m not suggesting that orgies are the answer to America’s divorce problems…but I am saying that a mind set in which you don’t believe it is ever possible to play out your fantasies is sad. Very, very sad.

Of course, you have to talk to your significant other about it. That person should be your everything, and if having a threesome (or any other fantasy) makes them uncomfortable, you may need to instead compromise – role play, spice things up with toys, etc. The fact still remains, though, that if you don’t believe you’ll ever get to play out your fantasies, you’re going to become unhappy and resentful in your relationship.

Cheating and divorce are not the answers. Finding someone who can grow sexually with you and being more open-minded about sex is.

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Interesting observation tonight that I just wanted to share with you all…

I think my aunt and uncle might be in a D/S relationship…or maybe not full blown submission, but I think that maybe they take those roles in the bedroom. Hmm…interesting.

I was at a family function tonight, and noticed that my aunt was sitting on the floor at my uncle’s feet. There was nothing weird about this at all, given that all the seats on the couch were taken.

But then another family member left the room, going into the kitchen to talk with more people out there. It was obvious that he wasn’t coming back to reclaim his seat, and yet, my aunt remained on the floor. I started to think about it…and really, my aunt sits on the floor at my uncle’s feet a lot. It never really occurred to me before that there’s a reason she does this beyond wanting to give up the good seats to other, older family members.

Later, I noticed my uncle take her hand and pull her up to the couch beside him. It was so natural – I don’t think anyone in my super-conservative family even noticed, and she was carrying on a conversation with all of us at the time.

Answer me this – if they are not in a D/S relationship, why did he take that control of her suddenly and pull her up to the couch? She seemed perfectly content on the floor…

And later in the evening, she went to do something, and outside of the conversation of the group, I heard her say quietly, “Do you want me to…” and he said yes, so she did it. What she was doing didn’t effect him in any way, so why would she ask him beforehand?

Maybe I’m reading too far into this.

All I know is that my aunt is someone I’ve always admired. My uncle as well. She’s the “cool” aunt that I can talk to because she’s a bit closer in age to me than my own parents, but still old enough to give great advice. We’ve mentioned sexual stuff in the past (moreso than I’ve talked about anything with my own parents who, for all I know, may still think I’m a virgin). Beyond that she’s a strong person running her own business and taking care of a houseful of kids and pets.

I don’t know if my aunt is a sub, but I like to think that she might be…or at least that she likes to take the submissive role at times. I believe there are more d/s, poly, and swinging couples out there than we all think there are…

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A kiss…a nibble…a bite

It’s enough to send me over the edge. That feeling when he comes up behind me after a shower, wanting to play, his cock already hard and pressed in my lower back.

He wraps his arms around my waist, warm and still a bit wet, and he lets the towel drop from his waist. I’m on the phone with my mom, but I hurry to hang up as his kisses my cheek, nibbles my earlobes, bites my neck. Just one bite, and my pussy is dripping, aching for him to thrust into me.

Biting is something I love. I love the pain, the marks of him owning me, the black and blue bruises, the teeth marks on my shoulders and chest and thighs and stomach. Mmmm…

Even just talking about bite marks is making me hot.

And I love to bite too. Mmmmm. Luckily, my master totally approves. 

Who else here likes biting…or being bitten?

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Ok, I’m usually not a huge fan of memes, but this one was short and I was tagged by the sexiest girl I know, so here we go…name five things your readers probably don’t know about you:

I really like cookies. You want to win my heart? Its all about the chocolate chip. Seriously. I know I posted a “Buy me a beer” link on the sidebar, but if you send me $5, I’ll buy myself some homemade cookies from the local bakery and love you more for that than I could ever love someone for an alcoholic beverage.

I’m having a love affair with Xtube right now. It’s a really great community there, and I can’t encourage you all enough to sign up! (Link on the left). It’s free, and as an added bonus, if you email me with your username, I’ll friend you – and yes, I have a picture posted!

I like being loud during sex. Well ok, ya’ll probably knew that one. But in case you didn’t – I like being loud and talking dirty…and I LOVE being commanded to do things. *rawr*

My parents never had that “sex talk” with me. I love my mom and dad, but they missed that step somewhere along the way. I guess I got lucky and was smart enough to figure out how to protect myself and such, but I’m a huge advocate for parents to talk to their kids about sex from an early age on.

You guys are the reason I’m here. Literally. Without you guys visiting my site, reading my stories, buying stuff from my affiliate programs, and clicking on my ads, I couldn’t afford to pay for hosting and, more importantly, I couldn’t afford to take the time to actually blog and read all of your emails. I know I don’t say it enough – but THANK YOU. Every time you leave a comment or vote in a poll, you’re adding to the community here and helping me build up a really great site. I just couldn’t do it without you all! *hugs*

Ok, who to tag…who to tag….

Got it. I’m tagging people who’ve recently wrote really hot posts for Sugasm, but who didn’t win one of the top three spots. Tagging:  Catalina – who recently wrote Catalina Love Fantasies (About Friends), Nate – who recently wrote Quickie in Men’s Room, and sub lyn – who recently wrote Shoe Slut. (All are excellent blogs worth the check-out, even if they don’t play along with the meme!)

Nude in nature courtesy of Erotic Garden.

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This Week’s Picks
The Rule of Blowjobs for Women
“Tease. Spend time. Don’t just start out like a Hoover on overdrive.”

Commercialising Romance or “I bought you this card now where’s my blowjob?”
“If it takes a specific date for your partner to show you he loves you then what do you have?”

Relax
“She smiled up at him, from her vantage point between his knees, and continued what she’d been doing.”

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